One of my new bloggy missions is to let you know when I come across new books, CDs, or products that I believe will bless and encourage you. Today’s feature is a brief Q&A session with my beautiful girlfriend, author Arlene Pellicane… and the giveaway is her new book, Growing Up Social, which she co-wrote with #1 New York Times Best Selling author of The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman.
How stinking CUTE is this cover?? #LOVEIT ~ NOW… Let’s get right to the good stuff:
Q:What motivated you to write Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World?
My son was born before the iPhone and I remember going to the grocery store with him as a toddler. We pointed at fruit, looked for the Cheerios box, and I had to teach him how to behave in public. Today toddlers are too busy on their tablets or their mom’s smart phone in the grocery store to look around. With technology become more and more integrated in daily life, now more than ever, we have to decide how (and how much) we’re going to use it. Very quickly, technology has become center stage in many American homes. Childhood is when a boy or girl’s heart is like wet cement – kids are open to our teaching, love, and guidance. We don’t want to miss this important window because we are too busy with our technology, or because we are entertaining our children, not training them.
Q: Why is it important that parents buy into the limitation of screens in their own lives?
When you boil it down, kids are going to imitate what their parents do – not necessarily what they say. In one study at the University of Washington, babies at just 42 minutes were already imitating adults. When the adult stuck his tongue out, the baby did the same. Babies grow to become children who watch where a parent focuses attention. If a parent is constantly checking emails, responding to texts and tweets, and digitally accessible most hours of the day, a child will mirror that by constantly using screens as well.
As adults, we have to become comfortable with calls going to voicemail and texts not being answered at the speed of light. Most of the time, it’s wiser to play a board game with our kids then to get caught up with social media.
Q: Is there hope out there for the parent who feels that his or her family is already too far gone into the mess of electronic media?
Yes, there is always hope as long as your children live under your roof. Of course, it is easier to make adjustments when your children are younger. Instead of coming down hard on your child because she’s watching too much TV, you can actually begin with an apology. Talk to your child and say something like, “I owe you an apology. I’ve allowed you to do watch unlimited TV and that hasn’t been healthy for you. I’m sorry about that. We’re going to gradually make some changes so that you will become a healthier adult.” Those changes may include a decrease in screen time, an outside play time, a short walk around the block each night to talk, or family reading or game night.
HOORAY! HOORAY! It’s a GIVEAWAY!!!
I’m giving away a copy of Arlene’s new book , Growing Up Social, and it could be yours!
To qualify for the drawing, you need to do TWO things:
#1. ANSWER THIS QUESTION: What could less screen time might look like for you or someone you love? You can leave a comment by CLICKING HERE.
#2. Share this post by using one of the social media buttons below.
That’s it! Easy peasy lemon squeezy! Once you do both, your name will be entered into the random drawing. Be sure to tell your friends so they can sign up too. This is great stuff!!
UPDATE: A winner has been chosen – Congratulations to Julie Kind YEA!!!!!!
Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World (co-authored with Gary Chapman) and 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. She has been featured on the Today Show, Family Life Today, and The 700 Club. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her Masters in Journalism from Regent University. She lives in San Diego with her husband James and three children.
Visit Arlene at www.ArlenePellicane.com for FREE family resources including a monthly Happy Home podcast.