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I Want To Hold Your Hand

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Gwen Smith

January 31, 2017

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When our kids were little my husband Brad and I used to hold their hands a lot. Sometimes it was to protect them from danger, like if we were crossing a street. Sometimes it was to calm fears or to help them to feel secure. Sometimes it was because we were on a mission to get through or to a place quickly. Other times it was for the simple pleasure of strolling, skipping, and smiling together.

Now that they’re teens, my kids aren’t so keen on holding hands with mom and dad anymore. Sigh. There is still the occasional watching-a-movie-on-the-couch-at-home handhold, but it’s a rarity. And I miss it.

I love locking fingers with my people. There’s a beauty and intimacy to it. A tangible connection that binds our skin and braids our souls. I love walking with them, hearing their hearts, talking through tight spots, giving advice, laughing and enjoying their company.

Similarly, our heavenly Father finds pleasure when you and I walk with Him. When we take His hand and share our time, trials, treasures, and thoughts.

The prophet Micah spoke to this. “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” (Micah 6:8)

This is a simple, yet profound summary of God’s desire for us. A revealing of His longing for you and me to live in constant communion with Him. To lace our fingers with His in good, bad, scary, and sad times. Whether the sun is high in the sky or thunder rumbles low in our hearts.

Let’s break that verse down a bit.

ACT JUSTLY

In order to act justly I have to behave in a way that God considers just – not the ways that the world considers just. My righteousness (my salvation) was made complete through the sacrifice of Jesus, but my willingness to walk in His righteousness is a choice I have to make each day. I get to choose whether I will do things my way or yield to the Holy Spirit within me and move as He leads. When I pray and invite the Lord into my day, it’s like reaching for His hand and asking God to lead me in His ways.

LOVE MERCY

Mercy is God’s kindness to NOT punish our sins as we deserve. It is His restraint from condemning His children (all who believe in their hearts and confess with their mouths that Jesus is Lord.) If it weren’t for the mercy of God all hope would be crushed! Instead, hope is vibrant in grace. We can live responsively to His mercy (love mercy) by being grateful women … women who thank God each morning for a clean slate. We love mercy when we forgive others as we have been forgiven. When we do not condemn others as we might think they deserve.

WALK HUMBLY WITH GOD

I love how the Bible describes the relationship between God and Enoch.

“Enoch walked faithfully with God; then he was no more, because God took him away.” (Genesis 5:24) What in the world? I don’t know what set Enoch’s relationship with God apart so much that God just had to snatch him from earth, but my glory – I want me some of that! Don’t you?

And look what was written about Enoch’s arc-building great grandson, Noah. “Noah was a righteous man, blameless among the people of his time, and he walked faithfully with God.” (Genesis 6:9)

They walked faithfully with God.

My prayer today is that God would consider me a woman who walks faithfully with Him.

I don’t want to be the girl who only reaches for His hand when the road is bumpy, when my checkbook is empty, or when my feet are stumbly. And I don’t want to be like the teenager who is embarrassed by her dad and only gives him attention in private or on occasion. I want to live with the faith of a child who acts justly, loves mercy, and daily takes the hand of her Father to face each moment, mountain, and memory right by His side.

Dear Lord,
Please teach me what it looks like to walk faithfully with You.
Show me what it looks like to act justly. Convict me when I don’t.
Help me to love mercy and to give it as freely as I take it. I want to hold Your hand.
In Jesus’ name, amen.

 

FOR YOUR REFLECTION and RESPONSE

Read Colossians 3:1-17 to see some practical ways you can live out Micah 6:8. Then swing over to my blog and leave a comment telling me which of the verses challenge you the most today.

 


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GWEN

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About Gwen Smith


Gwen Smith

I am an unashamed, imperfect worshiper of Jesus Christ. I cling to His goodness to cover my mess and purpose my days to live out the hope of the Gospel. It is my joy and passion to inspire women to live fully in grace and truth. I write books, devotions and songs. I speak. I sing. I worship. I post, pin and tweet. I am intensely in love with the Word of God and believe, wholeheartedly, that the Bible is divinely inspired truth.

 

41 responses to “I Want To Hold Your Hand”

  1. From page one, I knew Gwen Smith and I would see eye to eye on a lot of stuff, because she’s all about dreaming big and aiming high–not for our own sake but because that’s what God wants for us, and for others.

  2. Tonay says:

    My struggle today is silencing the voice of Satan, but I am not giving up. Tomorrow my daughter moves across the United States to start a new life as an adult and it will be the first time in my life I get to live my adult life without her. I think it is actually more scary for me because I know I have to rely solely on God first and my husband second rather than always putting my daughter first.
    I know the Lord is with me and I know there are many ways to communicate with her, I just have to embrace the faith and commit to the challenge! If GOd is for me, who can be against me! – I can do all things through Him who strengthens me!

  3. Rebecca says:

    It would have to be Colossians 3:12. Patience has always been a struggle for me and now that I have five children, the oldest only 7, I struggle mightily to be patient with them as chaos ensues.
    But I remind myself that God didn’t bless me with these children as a source of frustration or stress. They are gifts that I need to love, lead, and teach to become the adults he created them to be, for the purpose he set forth.
    Thank you for pointing out these verses in Colossians. It helps to have a place to come back to over and over, a reminder of what I should be doing and not doing. How blessed are we to have a God that loves, leads, and teaches us as well.

    • Tonay says:

      I love your comment. As a step-mother in a second marriage, I am reminded daily when I struggle that my children too are struggling to make sense of their world in multiple families, and it softens my heart to try to understand the chaos they express in a more sensitive manner. May God help you understand your children’s actions as a heart matter rather than a behavior matter.

  4. Ann says:

    Here’s what challenges me today: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language. The anger built over time ( from resentment at not being treated as number 1 in my husband’s life). It exploded into rage with lots of filthy language. Thank God, malice and slander give me less trouble although my mother (!) asks me daily for gossip. I vow to stop giving her any.
    But what to do about the anger? I’m carrying it around. I have explained it to my husband repeatedly, but I still can’t let go of it.
    Does anyone have any ideas? Things that worked for you? Bits of scripture to meditate on?
    Thanks.

  5. Carla Colbert says:

    The verse that struck me today was Colossians 3:12. I find that oftentimes, I have more patience and gentleness with people outside of my family (co-workers, church family) but struggle with offering those things to my own household. I don’t even want to try to justify that. My family deserves better. I should be the same all the time and I want that include all the fruits of the spirit. We are known by our fruit and I want all mine to be good! Thank you for today’s devotional.

  6. Rebecca Shreffler says:

    I struggle with needing to feel God’s hand holding mine. I’m so alone. I need to feel Him with me. I can’t physically feel Him and I don’t know how to spiritually feel. I’m so lost. I keep praying and begging Him to tell me what to do, show me how to surrender and let go, how to walk in faith with Him but I just don’t know HOW. I have no more fight left in me by I don’t know how to let go. I just want to feel better.

  7. Bernadette A. O'Leary says:

    “Set your heart on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory”. So often as women, I/we allow our hearts and minds to me consumed by the things of this world; it’s in our nature to be “concerned”. But these verses in Colossians spoke volumes to me today as I desperately need to exchange those “concerns” with looking up, putting my hand in God’s hand, and walking faithfully with Him (just for today and everyday).

  8. Heather says:

    Verse 8 is just one of the many that touched me today. I have an anger problem, and I also have the ability to hold a grudge for a long time. Years, even. I need to learn to forgive as Jesus forgives me, and I also need to manage my anger.

  9. Gina says:

    Colossians 3:12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. I find myself having dificulty with patience and gentleness these days. I have family members that I see making the same mistakes over and over. Sometimes, I just want to shake them and say “What is wrong with you! Why can’t you see what this is doing to you, your family, and those around you?” Of course, I don’t actually do it, but thinking it is just as wrong. I pray that God helps me show the same mercy and grace He has given me, to others. Thank you for today’s devotional.

  10. Susan Roach says:

    This is a great reading this morning Gwen, thank you! Of course after I read the right one lol lol🤣 My struggle sometimes is putting the past behind. Or better yet casting it out right? When I put it “behind” I still reflect and look at it and allow it to keep condemning me and that is from the enemy. (I just realized this as I’m reflecting from the scripture and writing). And this is how faithful our God is. I didn’t realize I was doing this until now! Wow❤️ I just never know how He is going to reveal His mercy, grace and love! Thank You Lord☺️

  11. Kristen says:

    Verse 8, “But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips” along with Verse 12, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”

    Anger has a stronghold over me. I have gotten better over the years, as I used to fly of the handle a lot more than I do now. I’ve really worked at it towards my husband by constant prayer and submission to God and can see a difference in when we talk about issues. Where I used to yell I now channel my emotions through crying sometimes. Where I used to never want to cry around the person which is why when anger came about I would yell. I think this came from my childhood. I used to cry when I would get angry and upset and was teased about it from a bully in Elementary School. Once hitting Middle School I decided I was not going to be a “cry baby” any more and really guarded myself to not let anyone see me cry, as it was some sort of a sign of weakness in my mind. It was the ones closest to me that when my anxiety would get to the highest point, instead of talking issues out when they happen, I would push them under a rug until a mountain built up and would explode. I feel sometimes as a Mom of a four year old and a Stepmom who raises/has custody of the 8 year old stepdaughter (since she was 14 months old) I let things go, but never seem to get over it. When it finally builds up and gets too much sometimes I explode. I hate myself after because I feel like I’m not being a good mother/Godly example they need. From these verses I can really see God telling me to be patient instead of channeling my anger. It will only come from daily prayer, talking with God and will be something I have to do every.single.day to get through. Thank God He has given me the ability to bring it to the Cross and leave all my burdens there.

  12. Deby Minter says:

    But above above all these, put on love! Love is the perfect tie to bind these together. Let your hearts fall under the rule of the Anointed ;s peace (the peace you were called to as one body), and be thankful. (verses 14 and 17

  13. Leslie says:

    I decided to read this section in the message version on Bible Gateway. Col 3 really spoke to me!
    Colossians 3:1
    So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective.
    “Don’t shuffle along with my eyes to the ground being absorbed with my life. Look up! A wonderful reminder that life isn’t about me and what I desire. The world is pretty chaotic right now and keeping my eyes focused on Christ, where the action is, reminds to not be discouraged and remember He had a plan.

  14. To walk humbly with your God speaks volumes as I walk on aold railway line 2xs a week.

    I talk sing and listen to God. I struggle with Walking at times, my legs are weak with out warning.

    I always have a great time with Jesus on the trail.

  15. Terry says:

    I’m challenged to forgive others as He forgives me, especially to forgive those who hurt any of my loved ones. When someone hurts the feelings of someone I love I just want to dismiss forever the one who has inflicted the hurt. God continually convicts me to forgive, forgive, forgive as He has forgiven me, poured his mercy on me so many times. I often have to pray about this many times.

  16. Jane Joyce says:

    Verses 12 and 13 challenge me, especially in these contentious times.

    • Verse 8 challenged me, even before I read it, I thought about how I always profess to others how I abhor gossiping, but I then realized that I do it unknowingly, like when I make snide comments to coworkers about other coworkers’ faults or wrongs done to me and how I put them in their place; I do it to get a laugh or to appear brazen and sassy to others and to be admired by those present but now on second thought, am I admired or are my quips thought offensive by them. When I read about putting off filthy communication out of ‘your’ mouth in verse 8, I realized that I need to keep my attempts at being admired to come from my doing merciful acts towards others and when there are times that I find fault with someone else, I need to take it up with them alone in a gracious way.

  17. sharon says:

    The verse that spoke to me was verse 2, For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. That is so powerful. I am forgiven of all that I have done in the past! This is so AMAZING! Lord, help me to always remember that you live within me. Help me to speak gently, be humble, and to love others as you love us.

  18. Denise says:

    Not returning to my old self, to forgive me self as well and giving praise for everything, the good, the bad, the ugly.

  19. Dawn says:

    Elisha God Bless You. I can relate to your situation. I have been separated from my husband for over a year and we have a nr 3 yr old. For the past nr month he has been staying at our home as he went abroad and locked himself out. The Landlord has been away and is now back! Our Son missed him terribly so ok as I have to put him first and want them to always be close. But boy do I want him gone!! Yet God keeps saying no love him, forgive him, have compassion on him etc. It is so hard. I am still angry with him as testified in my dreams and times when I shamefully angrily sin towards him and hate myself for letting him effect me and take me away from God. I have to keep reminding myself that God is interested in my character and not my comfort. At some point I know God will make it all ok but wish it was sooner rather than later. I wish he would leave today! God Bless you all.

  20. Carolyn says:

    My challenge is to set my heart and mind on things above, not on earthly things. When I am faced with a husband who struggles with PTSD and addictions daily (at present in a program with the Veterans Administration and going well for the most part) it is difficult to set my heart and mind on things above when I feel consumed by my spouse and his actions/reactions to life. But I keep trying with the help of the Holy Spirit I will be able to set my heart and mind on things above, not on earthly. Thank you for this reminder. My prayer today is that the Holy Spirit will rise up in me and lead me on the straight and narrow way.

    • Susan Roach says:

      Carolyn thank you for your honesty. It must be difficult. I know what’s difficult for me is to keep my focus on God in all situations, especially in my home. I am constantly reminded that my focus needs to be on Him. I need to submit everything to Him, and sometimes that’s the hardest thing to do. Especially when “I” see things getting off track, with my husband of course because it’s never about me (that’s the lie), I think I need to run the show. What that’s really saying is that I don’t trust God. Do I trust He has my husband or not? There is NO middle of the road … God is either everything or not! Oooh boy when I’m faced with this reality that it’s not really anyone else but my lack of trust; that’s a tough one. There are husband prayers I would be more than willing to pass on to you if you want to email me farina2362@yahoo.
      I am also someone who has had PTSD, addiction and a whole lot of other things (diagnosis) that the Lord has redeemed me from. Keep seeking sister❤️ I will pray for you😻

  21. Jackie says:

    I used to think vs 5 (Col 3) referred to putting off some things. And verse 12 was putting on some other things. I just now noticed that verse 5 is more than that – it is put to death those things, and it is closely related to verse 3, where “I have died, and my life is hidden in Christ.” Thank you, Lord, for showing this to me today.

  22. Joan Thornton says:

    The verse that challenges me is 17 And whatever you do, whether in work or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. I try to think of it as I get to do something instead I have to do something so that I can do it with a willing heart.

  23. Dawn says:

    Colossians 3:12
    It appears that I am angry when I need to confront someone about things biblical or otherwise. No one has ever been able to communicate without feeling like I’m attacking even though I may just be trying to understand what they are saying or where they are coming from. Prayers please? It is so important to be humble and peaceful. To be a peace maker, not a peace keeper. To share Gods love, not an opinion or fact.

  24. Elisha says:

    Having a difficult ex, who is also my baby girl’s father, has been the toughest thing I’ve had to go through. He is vindictive, slanderous, greedy, a user, and a manipulative narcissist. He will say he wants to keep my daughter longer when I ask for her, but then take off and leave her with his ex-wife instead of letting me have her. God has spoken to me over the last few months about loving him regardless of what he does to me. I am not so sure I have forgiven him because I am still upset with how he chooses to live his life, as well as all he has done to me over the last 5 years. People are always telling me I should do this or that, but I just explain that I am called to love, even the unlovable, and that God will deal with them. People rarely understand and just think I am being naïve. I deal with him with a friendly attitude and try to just get along, but my heart just wishes he’d get some of the justice he has coming to him. He seems to get everything he ever wants. And I know his reward is here on earth. I do pray for his salvation. Just a hard situation but trying to follow God’s leading instead of my own.

  25. At this moment, I’m finding it difficult to forgive as the Lord forgives. I have loved my brother all of my life. Whenever we fussed as children & younger adults, we always forgave one another.

    However, now as older adults (i.e., senior citizens), my brother talks to me harshly & curses at me over the phone. It’s so disrespectful; & no, he does not have dementia. He is a physician. I am an RN. I feel like I’m receiving a brow beating at work. I have not behaved this way with him. Though I love him, I need to reclaim some peace. Last time we spoke over the phone, I cried for hours.

    All I want is to distance myself from him. Is this wrong of me?

    • Elisha says:

      Jessalyn, to forgive does not mean that you have to put yourself in a bad situation. If someone raped you, you wouldn’t keep hanging out with that person, but you can still forgive them. And you can still stand up for yourself and still love your brother. I would probably distance myself, at least a little more than you have. And when he calls and starts becoming disrespectful, simply tell him that you love him, but will not listen to him talk to you this way and if he continues then you will hang up. And stick to that every single time. It will take a little time for him to catch on that you are serious. Eventually he will stop doing that if he wants to talk to you. You are not his verbal punching bag. It is going to be hard to do, but the end result will be what you want. God doesn’t want you to be verbally beat up by people just because you forgive them. And pray for God to heal his heart and change him.

    • Susan Roach says:

      Jessalyn thank you for sharing your sorrow with us. Sister continue to pray and seek the Lord. He will guide you on what to do and say. I’ve had to pray for one of my brothers for similar reasons. I follow the Holy Spirits prompting on talking to him. ❤️

  26. Gloria Jean Person says:

    Susana Cambareri, hang in there. Gods mercy and grace will see you thru all that you are facing right now. There is nothing too hatd for God! Know that he has given you the authority through his word to speak deliverance and victory over your life. Tell the devil he is a liar and he will not hold you captive to these fears! When Christ died you were given 100 % freedom victory and peace over every addiction. Be not ashamed Jesus nailed shame to the cross! Declare you are Victorious in Jesus Mighty Name! He loves you Susana Cambareri!! Be Blessed!!!

  27. Gloria Jean Person says:

    Thank God for your comforting words.God is so kind, forgiving and his mercy endures forever. What a privilege and honor for him to hold my hand and to walk with me through the storms of life no matter what they entail.. Gods word is forever faithful and it will teach you how to trust him wholeheartedly It is a process. Thank God for his patience as we learn to be committed to trusting him.

  28. Ruth says:

    Thank you Gwen. You write such inspiring devotionals. I really want to hold God’s hand too and to walk humbly with Him. I’ve struggled with anxiety for so many years, but I know God is bigger than all of my problems. I truly need to learn how to trust in Him with all of my heart and to let His peace rule in my heart. Many blessings to you. Thanks again

    • Susan Roach says:

      Thank you Ruth. I’ve had anxiety for quite a while too. Some of my anxiety has come from things I needed to submit to the Lord that I was still hanging on to that I didn’t know. I pray that the Lord search my heart and show me, and He does❤️ James 4:7 helps much “Submit yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. ” I forget the submit part sometimes or think I am submitting but I’m really not. I feel for you and know what you’re going through. I will pray for you❤️

  29. Duanna Brown says:

    My prayers are to be like Colossians 3:1-17, and Colossians 4:6. I was studying to memorize I Peter 3.

    I desire to have more of God and to praise Him whatever the circumstances.

    I read how holding one’s hand confirms what God can teach us, and humbleness of mind. I have never thought “humbleness of mind”, not just being humble.

    To mercy is forgiveness, I found to be compassionate and that can be difficult when wounded.

    I could go on about the leaven bread, I learned, false doctrines, and understanding, means getting wisdom.

  30. Susanna Cambareri says:

    Please pray for me I love your blog you make it so real I would love to feel the peace of God for my life, and to experience no fear. My name is Susanna I have three children I have an addiction, of smoking in secret. I have been threw so much trauma. And hold my self accountable However my anxiety is real and allot of sleepiness nights. Could you help me? I am so weary and need help for my health. I worry to much and fear I need a transformation. Thank you God Bless I am ashamed Susanna

    • Elisha says:

      Susanna, we all go through troublesome times and worry about everything under the sun. But God tells us not to worry. We were not made to worry. If we trust Him, then we have to give it all to Him, even our worry. He wants our lives to be easier than we make it. He wants to carry that worry so that you don’t have to. And I promise, that when we let him take the lead then our lives turn out much better than anything we can do for ourselves. He knows your heart and your hurt, and He is ready to take that load off of your shoulders, if you will only say the word, and let it go. He’s got you. If he takes care of the birds and the flowers, how much more will he do for His child? Just let go, and let God. Yes, easier said than done, but you will feel so much better.

    • Susan Roach says:

      Susanna I will pray with you if you like. Shoot me an email farina2362@yahoo.com … we lock arms and we do this together! Burdens are not meant to be carried on our own, nor are we able to carry them on our own❤️

  31. Juanita says:

    Verse 17 of Colossians 3. Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. To me, that means do not do anything of my own, do it for our Lord. Whether I’m doing something for pleasure or work, do it for God.

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