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When Love Trumps Anger

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Gwen Smith

April 18, 2014

Anger, Blog, Christian Living, Devotions, Encouragement, Forgiveness, Love

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“I’m a terrible mom!”

Do you ever say these words? I do. I did that day. The day I was working in my office, minding my own business, when my oldest son threw a paper airplane at the back of my head. Not one to normally welcome an air attack, I gave him the stern “mom voice,” and asked him to stop messing around. I asked him to give me some private time so I could get some work done. He agreed, and turned to leave.

Surprisingly, he then jumped around and threw it at me again! Well, let me tell you, my grace-o-meter was reading pretty low at this point! I barked like an angry dog. “What in the world do you think you are doing? I just told you that I needed to be left alone so I can get some work done! Stop it!”

“But Mom, there’s a message on the plane,” he tenderly replied. “Read it.”

As I unfolded the airplane made of orange construction paper, I saw this message written in pink marker: “Mom, I Love You.”

His affectionate declaration was followed by a few X’s and O’s.

You know: hug, hug, kiss, kiss.

Pure precious.

Epic mom-fail.

“Nice!” I said to myself. “Loser-mom strikes again.” I had scolded my son and reacted out of frustration with an unkind tone. All the while, my son was trying to communicate love to me.

I felt horrible. Time stood still as I began to beat myself up.

Shame began to fill my heart… but as it did the Spirit of God within me gently nudged – reminding me that condemnation is not from Him. His conviction is always purposed to spur me on toward choosing a godly response.

So I chose love – God’s love alive in me.

As I chose God’s better way, the grace way, His love trumped my anger. It’s weightier. Praise God!

James 1.19 quick to listen

I called my son back into the office and apologized for my behavior. I invited my tall, lanky teenager to sit on my lap and told him that – while I’m not particularly fond of airplane attacks, especially while I’m working, I am fond of love attacks. We held each other and had a very sweet moment.

As Preston and I hugged, God reminded me of this principle: When we allow His love to trump our anger, we are able to experience restoration in relationships.

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires (James 1:19-20 NIV).

The Bible tells us that we are to be slow to anger. It is a lesson that I am still learning. Now, that doesn’t mean we should never be angry. Jesus exhibited righteous anger in the Jerusalem temple when he drove out the merchants that were buying and selling there. Righteous anger is permissible. We should be angry about sin and injustice. But when we respond to others in anger, it becomes our sin.

Got any relationships that are in need of restoration? Is there any anger, unforgiveness, or bitterness in your heart that might be gaining a stronghold in your life and keeping you from God’s best?

The benefits of allowing the love of God to trump the anger in your heart are tremendous, but the application can be very challenging. We can’t overcome our natural, sinful tendencies to react, and overreact, in anger alone. We need God’s help. His strength will meet us at our weakness when we call on Him. The Holy Spirit helps us to respond in God’s strength instead of our own.

Join me in calling on His strength to love well today.

Holy Father, Thank you for leading me in Your way of grace. I need Your help! I confess my anger/bitterness/unforgiveness right now with _______________. Please forgive me. Please bring restoration to the relationships that have been affected by my anger. Help me recognize when I over-react or when I respond in anger that is ungodly. Give me the strength to respond in love – to be slow to speak and quick to listen – so that You can be glorified through my behavior. In Jesus’ Name, amen.


FOR YOUR REFLECTION and RESPONSE:
Do you need to trade anger for love? In what relationships? How? Spend a few moments in confession and ask God to bring a fresh awareness to your soul each time you react in anger.

Are you in a Bible study? Knowing God’s Word is essential to growing in faith. Join a local Bible study today, or begin reading a book of the Bible on your own. Try reading the book of James this week. It’s only five chapters. Will you join me in reading James? If so, leave a comment below making a public commitment: “I’m reading James with you!”

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About Gwen Smith


Gwen Smith

I am an unashamed, imperfect worshiper of Jesus Christ. I cling to His goodness to cover my mess and purpose my days to live out the hope of the Gospel. It is my joy and passion to inspire women to live fully in grace and truth. I write books, devotions and songs. I speak. I sing. I worship. I post, pin and tweet. I am intensely in love with the Word of God and believe, wholeheartedly, that the Bible is divinely inspired truth.

 

26 responses to “When Love Trumps Anger”

  1. damilola says:

    I’m reading James with you. thanks for this message. it could not have come at a better time

  2. kristen says:

    I will read james with you!

  3. David says:

    Yes. I want to read James with you

  4. Michelle Israel says:

    God bless you you are such an amazing inspiration. Your devotions, music, and encouraging words remind me I’m not alone in this constant struggle and brings me back to Jesus. It gets so hard sometimes but I thank The Lord that I have Girlfriends in God that encourage me at my lowest points and push me nearer to Jesus. Thank you. Just thank you. And yes, I will read the book of James with you!!

  5. Kristine says:

    Yes, I will read the book of James with you!

  6. Theresa says:

    Yes, I will read the book of James with you. I truly belive God directed me to you blog today. I needed to read and be encouraged by it today. Thank you!

  7. Debra says:

    Yes, I will join in to read the book of James there’s something about unity that gives me strength.

  8. angela says:

    yes I will also read the book of James with you.

  9. Julie says:

    Yes, I’ll read the book of James with you; it is indeed a very profound book and he does not mince his words. Lord knows I need reminding.
    Thanks and Happy Easter.

  10. allie says:

    I’ll read James with you Gwen

  11. Marty says:

    Happy Friday

  12. Sharon says:

    I am reading James with you.

  13. Mary says:

    I too need to hear this message this morning. I am struggling in my marriage right now and get angry very easily. I need prayers for wisdom and guidance.
    I will read James with you.

  14. Traci says:

    I needed to hear this message this morning. My anger at another person has consumed me this week and I need to let it go. God is faithful and I need to Praise Him instead. Thank you for your timely words

  15. Tammy says:

    I’m reading James with you!

  16. Yolanda says:

    I am reading James with you.

  17. Theresa says:

    i’m gonna read james with everyone!! thanks for your story. i been dealing with that with a few poeple lately!!!

  18. Rebecca says:

    I’m reading James with everybody. Thanks so much for the invite. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who blows it!

  19. Bonzac says:

    I will James with you!

  20. Debbie says:

    I am reading James with u

  21. maseray says:

    I am reading james with u

  22. Gale says:

    I’m reading James with you!

  23. Lynn says:

    so good

  24. Maggie says:

    I’m reading James with you,surrendered to however He will use it in my life

  25. Ruth Hostetter Nietz says:

    reading the book of James w/ you, Gwen! Thanks for the invitation:)

  26. Stacey M says:

    “I’m reading James with you!”

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