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Happy Friday, Everybody! Today’s Guest Post and Giveaway is great. I’m excited to introduce you to my friend KAYLA AIMEE, author of Anchored and her new book, IN BLOOM, Trading Restless Insecurity for Abiding Confidence. Kayla Aimee is young, witty, bright and adorable. She’s a Jesus-loving, sweet-tea drinking southern girl whose got a charming spunk to her (which I completely love). She writes with a refreshing honesty, depth and humor – and she isn’t afraid to tackle tough subjects. In Bloom delves into the vulnerable topics of insecurity and inadequacy… and I believe this post will be a source of encouragement to you today.

Enjoy this excerpt from IN BLOOM and be sure to leave a comment so you qualify for the giveaway!!


We’re all just afraid of something. I’m afraid of being lonely, for instance, in addition to driving over bridges. I still struggle to shake the specter of loneliness that haunts my headspace, striking me with the fear that I am the cause of my isolation.

A group of women and I are talking about how hard it is to make friends as adults and what I’m secretly thinking is that I am afraid to risk living uncovered. I am always on the brink and ready to flee, poised to run.

Because if I leave first, I don’t have to risk the aftermath of being abandoned.

Being lonely is not to be confused with being alone, which is something I rarely experience anymore, now that I have children. My four-year-old, Scarlette, keeps up a steady stream of conversation from the moment her feet hit the floor until the moment her head hits the pillow. Sometimes it doesn’t even end then because she’s prone to talking loudly in her sleep.

(My participation in these conversations is both presumed and utterly unnecessary. If I don’t answer her, she just answers herself on my behalf.)

The other day was one of those days where I greeted my husband at the door with wild eyes and let him know in no uncertain terms I needed ten minutes alone in the shower before I lost my typical angelic disposition.

Moments after hearing this, Scarlette came plodding in the bathroom behind me to let me know she fully understood the gravity of the situation.

“Mommy? Hey! Mommy! I am going to help Daddy do all da laundry, and I’m going to go downstairs without my shoes on, because I just want to be barefoot, and dat is okay. Dat is going to be just fine. You don’t have to worry about me because I am not going to be in dis bathroom, I am just going to be helping Daddy. And we are going to take all da clothes down- stairs, and I am going to be a big helper with Daddy, and we are not even going to come in dis bathroom because you need your privacy, and we are NOT going to bother you while you are in da shower. Okay, Mommy?”

“Okay, that sounds great, Scarlette,” I said, from inside the shower.

So like I said, I’m rarely alone, but this doesn’t mean I don’t find myself in pockets of solitude, feeling isolated and insecure. Loneliness breeds my insecurity.

This is why I am afraid of it, because it plucks at my feelings of inadequacy.

Like all fears, it only succeeds at diminishing me. Fear is our restraint system, a barrier between us and our desires. Fearing rejection keeps me from connection. Fearing judgment keeps me from being vulnerable. Fearing the bridge literally keeps me from getting home in a timely manner.

I thought embracing 2 Timothy meant I would eventually stop being fearful altogether, but more than twenty years have passed, and I’ve yet to meet a bridge that didn’t fill me with dread, even the one I drive on nearly every single day. I do it anyhow because “courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than one’s fear.”2

(This quote is attributed to Ambrose Redmoon, but in full disclosure I heard it first while watching The Princess Diaries. You never know what’s going to change your life.)

This is how we have the spirit of power and love, by knowing that in our weakness God lends us strength. In embracing that promise of truth, we continue on through our fear.

Oftentimes overcoming doesn’t mean we no longer experience fear, it just means we keep going in spite of it.

Friendship happens when someone risks starting the conversation.

And when we find our belonging, it lessens our loneliness.


Congratulations to our giveaway winners: Angie Triggs &
Lora Strosnider!


Every woman is intimately acquainted with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. Whether fueled by a culture of makeover shows, by the lingering memories of mean girls, or by events much more wounding to the soul, we can become so conditioned by self-doubt that it becomes our inner monologue.

What we want is to be free of shame and comparison, to turn our uncertainty into a bold confidence. But to flourish in our own skin, we first have to rewrite the narrative.

In this fearless, funny, and refreshingly relatable chronicle of her own metamorphosis from the insecurity that once held her captive, author Kayla Aimee unfolds the blueprint for women to:

*  Identify the deep-seated sources of our assumed inadequacy and replace them with steadfast truths of scriptural affirmation
*  Replace our need for approval with the enduring promise of acceptance
*  Uncover our purpose, unlock our potential, and celebrate the God-given gifts in our unique personality

To every woman who longs for belonging, this journey through Kayla’s inviting prose, biblical promises, and journaling prompts will help guide her from restless insecurity to a beautiful becoming.


KAYLA AIMEE is a writer and speaker known for her vulnerable storytelling, signature wit, and southern charm. She makes her home in the honeysuckle-covered hills of North Georgia with her husband and two beloved, albeit slightly mischievous children. You’ll find her always encouraging women to laugh easily, love boldly, and be fully themselves at


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  1. I loved this. I love Gwen and all you have shown me through Our Lord Christ. This books sounds amazing. I will so get this to increase my stability in my walk. Thanks

    Margarita Moore

  2. Exactly how I feel, lonely even when not alone. Sometimes the fears are more than you can bear. Thank you for your wonderful excerpt.

  3. I’ve been looking for help not being a “people-pleaser,” but rather a “God-pleaser.” I hope this book helps my insecurities that drive my need for approval <3

  4. Love this excerpt! Really speaks to the loneliness I feel even though I’m surrounded by others. I look forward to seeing what the rest of the book holds!

  5. This middle aged woman often doubting often lonely,often anxious, still struggles with shame really needs to read the InBloom book I would love to receive it!! Thank you for sharing Gwen love that about you and Kayla for writing the book. 🤗☝👭❤

  6. I can’t wait to read this book. I am a 44 year old woman recently divorced. My children are grown and I am in a new season in life. It is difficult to make adult friends. I am learning each day to face me fear and experience new things, expand my circle. I was always very shy and quiet. I find myself becoming more social. It is because of the confidence Jesus gives me in each new situation I face. I too still have anxiety but with Jesus by my side I am able to face my fears every single day.

  7. It is hard to find real connections now, especially as we get older & as society is busier & more separated. I don’t think we need to assume something is wrong with us that others don’t like, but we do need to realize it will take more effort in our part to find friends.

  8. Moved almost 8 months ago now. I never thought of myself as one to have a hard time meeting friends, until now. This sounds like a great read. Something I need to read.

  9. I once read that fear is really false evidence appearing real. But fear is real for me as I too am lonely . I moved to a small town 2 years ago. No friends yet. I work, volunteer, etc. Is it me??

  10. Thank you Kayla for your message that really hit home with me. I am praising God for removing the fear of rejection that has been in my life since I was a little girl.

  11. Beautiful words that I read, so much truth in my life and my sisters. If I am chosen I will give this book to my sister who is not a Christian and who’s life needs encouragement like in the words I’ve just read, thank you.

  12. I can relate to her message. Even though I am alone I don’t feel I am lonely because I have to remind myself I have God and my church. Oh Happy Day…

  13. I would love to win this book. I always feel inadequate and lonely. I love the wit of this book as well as I’m also a southern girl. Maybe this book will help me to be more confident and some insight on making and keeping friends. I do think a lot of Gwen. She is also inspiring.

  14. This book sounds amazing. I have been battling with past issues. I need to be more confident with God and learn to face these fears. I love Gwen and look forward to her recommendation of this book, Bloom. Looks amazing.

  15. I can soooo relate to the section of the book. How refreshing to read and relate to past memories, day to day activities, and be filled with help and hope! Thank you for sharing!

  16. This book sounds like it would be a great help in my walk with Jesus…..have felt lonely and a sense of “not belonging” in many seasons of my life. Jesus calls us aside to meet with Him in those lonely times to learn that He is the closest friend we have. Thank you for sharing with us your struggle.

  17. I heard a new song by Zack Williams called Fear is a Liar”. Yes, we all have those insecurities that we see or hear in our world. However, Our God has stated that fear is not Him mm talking. We need to rely on God and His son Jesus to get through our fears and insecurities.

  18. Thank you for those thoughts! So encouraging to know that others have some of the same struggles that I do & are working & leaning on Jesus to overcome!

  19. This book is an answer to my prayer! I am 76 yrs. old, have been a christian for almost forever, involved in church, have friends, but, when I am home alone, or even with my husband, I feel lonely. My 3 sons and their families live farther away, and we only see them a few times a year. At Christmas my family from Iowa were only here for 2 nights! Looking forward to reading this book!

  20. I saw myself in these words on so many levels, especially the fear of rejection which sadly keeps me distant even from loved ones. Thank you for sharing and letting us know we’re not alone.

  21. I really enjoyed the sample of your book. Even though I am a very outgoing person I totally related to the article which surprised me. There is that part of me that is so private and that kind of answered some feelings I had. Thank you

  22. I think everyone could benefit from this book. After I read it I’ll pass it to my daughter.
    Thank you for being so generous.

  23. Thanks so much for sharing your story! We all need time to ourselves! Even if it’s a quick shower or a walk with your dog. That’s what I do most days! Love how your daughter knew you needed time alone and all the care and love she told you how she was going to help you in her own little way!

  24. I am 60 years old,and I have no close friends. I have always been a stay at home house wife. While my husband worked as a law officer for 20 years, I stayed at home with our two children and worked on our chicken farm. Then when our children had family’s of thier own, I looked after my grandchildren, while they went to work. Now my two oldest grandchildren have grown up,and my two children have life of their own now. I lost contact with the friends I did have when our children were small,because, they all went to work in public places and got so busy. I am daily trusting in the Lord to help me find a friend that I can confined in.

  25. My greatest fear is public speaking! This is a carry over from the days when we had to give book reports in school. You’d think I would have outgrown that fear but It is still there. My feelings of not measuring up really come out whenever I have to get up in front of a crowd of my peers. But here I am, at the age of 82, and still quivering and shaking. I know it’s irrational but can’t seem to overcome it. I really need to read your book!

  26. I totally need to read this book! Since breaking up with my boyfriend a year ago, I have not only lost him but friends have vanished. I’ve never felt more alone and isolated in my life. It’s awful.

  27. Hooray!!!! I cannot wait to get my hands on your amazing book! I have three daughters so I’m cracking up with the phrase, “Mommy? Hey! Mommy!!!! I truly get it!!!!!

    My daughter’s are all grown up and now married , starting their own little families. The struggle for young moms is real. Dealing with inadequacy, self worth, insecurity, fears, and acceptance is tough. What a wonderful book that will help lead, guide, and understand their identity in Christ and their biblical belonging! My hope is to share In Bloom with each of them!!!!! Blessings!!!

  28. Kayla,
    I read the excerpt from your book “In Bloom” & felt connected with you on the issues we face in our everyday lives. As I age ( now begin I g my 60’s), I definitely could relate to topics you wrote about. Just because we age, it doesn’t mean that life slows down, but actually as we retire it seems we stay busy filling our days so we don’t fill lost or alone.
    I look forward to reading more of your book,

  29. I want to read Kayla’s book. As an older adult and a full time rver, it becomes increasingly difficult for me to make friends along the way.

  30. I would love this book. Reading the devotion today was like reading my own diary including not only the fear but the parts about bridges and hiding in the shower!

  31. Kayla, your book sounds like it’s going to be wonderful! I can’t wait to read it! I loved this line Gwen shared from your book, ” Fear is our restraint system, a barrier between us and our desires. ” What a powerful truth! I’m sure your book will bless many hearts! Gwen thank you for the words you write and for introducing such great authors on your website! I love your faithful heart!

  32. Being lonely is definitely something I’ve struggled with and living overseas makes friendship even more complicated. Some people stay for awhile, some people come and then leave after only 2 or 3 years. In the summer, I live in the U.S. and no one wants to make friends, because they know I’me going to leave. After many years of living like this, I’ve stopped reaching out to neighbors, because I just figure my experience is no one is going to like me or want to be my friend. Everybody already has their friends. I’m used to being at the bottom of everyone’s ‘friend’ list – too far down to get invited to anything or get a phone call. It’s going to take a lot of courage and convincing to try again.

  33. Can’t wait to read Kayla Aimee’s new book! I think the fear of loneliness and the difficulties of making new friends as an adult is something that most adults have and struggle with.

  34. Right before her and Jeff married, a friend of hers had encouraged a bunch of us to follow KA and I’ve been faithful blog follower since (even though I didn’t know her from Eve!). In fact, it’s her love for the Lord that led me to recommit my life to Him. And it’s because of her that I started my own blog(s). KA is one of those rare gems; a friend that I’ve never met if I may.

  35. I would love to read a book on something every woman at one point in her life struggles with! These reassurances are what we all need to hear!

  36. Oh, how I want to learn more than ever to overcome the fear of rejection and live in God’s loving acceptance; to feel comfortable in my own skin and not worry so much what others might think.

  37. I haven’t made a friend since moving from my beloved home in Florida. I’ve lived in South Carolina for four years now. I’ve had three major surgeries, one being life threatening where only family visited me in that month long stay in the hospital!!! This is a permanent move, in a permanent house. The neighborhood is okay, but no one brought me a welcome basket like I’ve done 100’s of times. I forgot to mention that the surgeries have left me with huge scars on one leg and the leg is 3+ inches shorter than the other! Getting around is difficult and I no longer have any confidence! Jesus, I’m asking for your help.

  38. I to fear loneliness 😢 I feared it all my life, I had a very lonely childhood, and now a broken marriage has left me to fear that again.

  39. I would love this book. It is so timely for me at this time. A couple of weeks ago after a sermon our pastor had us write down sins that we wanted to be rid of on a slip of paper and had us put it at the alter. I wrote insecurity. Right after someone gave me a bracelet I now wear that to remind myself to not to be afraid but to step out in faith and security in Christ.

  40. I’vee always tried to ” bloom where i’m planted”, blossom amongst the muck (as I wade thru it!! ) and burst forth as a fresh blessing of hope to others (even while thru my silent tears at my own circumstances)
    So I was immediately attracted-like a butterfly or a bee-to the beautiful cover of this lovely book xxx if I win it, I already know what dear lady I will bless,with it after I finish reading it. She can use the upliftment of the cover alone xx

  41. Even though I am now a grandmother, I laughed out loud reading her struggle to find alone time. I remember those times so well. I could also relate to her struggles with fear and insecurity and I look forward to more from Kayla.

  42. Hi Kayla,

    This sounds like an awesome book, I already ordered it but would love a copy for a co/worker and friend.

    Blessings to you,

  43. I just love the taste of what is in the book. I suffer to from this feeling of loneliness. I would love to have a copy of the book. I was just diagnosed with squamous cell carcinoma. I will lean in hard on Father God and his grace and mercy. I will have plenty of time to read and this is perfect for this time in my life.

  44. Hi, as I read this sample of the book, I could agree with her feelings of fear as I have the same feelings. I can so relate to this. I hope that I win a free copy of this this book. I feel that it could help me immensely. Thank you so much. Tina

  45. This so reminds me that we become what we think. We need to guard our minds and not let Satan defeat us with lies. Instead we trust God to be our anchor and to whom we have our identity as a beloved, chosen and secure child of God. This book sounds like it would be instrumental in reducing many insecurities and fears.

  46. I have been a fan of Kayla for years! Would love to receive this book. She relates to so many things we face as women, wives and friends!

  47. I have been insecure all of my life due to having a very strict background, which led me to feel like I could never do anything right. I’ve also dealt with fear on many occasions. I’m confident that this book would be beneficial in so many ways.

  48. I read the excerpt from the book and I’m amazed at your insight and perception. I’ve struggled with those feelings most of my life. Your book can bring much healing and understanding to those issues.

  49. I’m learning to “be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer; supplication and thanksgiving, make my requests known before God and he will give me the peace that I need.” My version. Learning to believe this.

  50. First all, I love a good book! 🙂
    Secondly, I have always dealt with insecurities in my life. 🙁
    Thirdly, so if I happened to win this book, I I would get to read a GREAT book that would surely change something in my life about my insecurities. 😉

  51. “Friendship happens when someone risks starting the conversation.” I love that! A great reminder to not be afraid to reach out and start a conversation. We never know what God might be up to.

  52. I would love to read this. Struggles with loneliness and insecurity affect so many… I know I am not immune. Thank you 🙂

  53. I’m sure a lot of people feel they are the only one going through something, until they read a post like this, and then they realize it’s a lot more common than one would think. We are all going through “things” but most put up a front so as not to show our vulnerability.

  54. This book is going to be wonderful, if what we got to read is any indication. It’s like she was in my head. I can so relate to those feelings of isolation and inadequacy, especially when Christ keeps pulling me into leadership roles. Good thing I have His hand to hold on to!

  55. I am retiring in May, I feel this book could help me in the second phase of my life. Unlocking gifts and potential in continuing my journey without fear and insecurity getting in my way.. Preparing for In Bloom!!

  56. We are like a diamond we have so many facets (sides). The side we portray at work, the side we portray at home, the side we portray to our friends, the side we portray to our family, the side we portray to our spouse. If only they knew what I was thinking inside, how would they feel about me then? The secrets that we have within that we try to keep a lid on – afraid that if they knew…..we build up walls and yes, I do agree that being alone and being lonely are two different things. The only person who knows the real you is you and even you try to downplay and deny your own existence. If only I were like so and so I would be so happy. Look at her life why does she get to have it all. You have a choice not only to be happy but most importantly to be content with your life. You have the power to change your life. You have the power to not put so much credence into someone’s opinion of you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made in God’s image. But as we get older and the years go by instead of living in the now, we tend to bring up past regrets from the past or proclaim what we will do in the future if we are afforded the chance. Tomorrow is not promised and the past is no more. Live now! Live each day as if it were your last. Love fiercely. Live fiercely. What can you do now albeit one tiny iota of a change that will make you feel good for having done it. Life is…..what YOU make it. Not your mother, sister, father, brother, spouse, friend – but what YOU and only you can do to make it better, even if it is just a change of attitude and gratitude for God allowing you to be a part of his purposeful design. Change you and I guarantee you your life will not be the same. Love yourself. Without your flaws, you wouldn’t be you. Hitting 60 this year and still discovering me. Awesome.

  57. Thank you Gwen and Kayla! Looking forward to reading the book. I’m 56 and just learning what it means to truly walk with Christ, Trust Him…and have a relationship with Him. I’ve put everything else before him, even toxic relationships. Thanks for your inspiration and helping me grow! I need all the help I can get!!

  58. Would love to have a free copy of Kayla’s book but I will be purchasing it regardless. What s blessing to be reminded of the importance of friends and how we can support one another through those lonely times

  59. Definitely a must read for me. My mother spent her lifetime battling insecurity and also filling it into my life. Time for total freedom!

  60. Love this and can’t wait to read the whole book. I struggle everyday with being lonely vs. loneliness and extreme restless insecurity/inadequacy. Excited to embrace your encouraging words.

  61. As women I think many of us deal with these feelings…I know I do. Thank you for sharing your heart! I believe it will be a blessing to many!

  62. Kayla, I really enjoyed what you wrote. I am 66 years old and I still struggle to make real friends. I have a couple of close friends, but no one that I can just call and talk to on the spur of the moment. I am happily married, but good friends are also necessary for me to feel whole. I would really love to read your book — you have alot of insight for someone so young. Thanks for sharing with us. God bless you!

  63. God be praised for the things He has done and is continuing to do.

    What an amazing week it has been, so grateful so thankful.

    Have a wonderful weekend and Bloom where you are planted, in Jesus name.

    Love, Kellye

  64. Loved Kayla’s account of Scarlette’s running monologue! We had a daughter just like her, so I can relate. Her book sounds fabulous. Hope I win the drawing.

  65. I thought I was the only one: feeling lonely, having trouble making friends as an adult, not being able to count 3 friends for girlfriends weekend. Thanks for telling me I’m not alone.

  66. I understand your plight. Every time I have made a close friend in my adult years they have moved away. The last time was just in 2016. It causes me to fear making close friends although I yearn to have one. Thank you for this post. God bless you and your dear family.

  67. Hope to win!!!
    I 🖤🖤🖤 reading Every thing you write!!! It’s so warm and inspiring and fills me with such JOY!

  68. “Free of shame and comparison,” that’s what I need at this new SEASON of my life. Having just turned a larger double-digit age this past week, I am beginning to question myself and everything around me pretty vigorously!

  69. I was raised in a home where you never shared your struggles with
    anyone outside the four walls of our home. In adulthood, I struggle with loneliness because its not comfortable to share hard times with friends. Husbands dont always understand….i pray to God for wisdom to let go and let HIM control my insecurities.

  70. At 58 years of life, I have returned to ongoing feeling of these fears due to the huge changes in my life. Reading the excerpt of the book was encouraging

  71. Thank you, Kayla for being your authentic self. I believe when we choose to be authentic, we become relatable and inspiring! Best wishes, Deanne Hoff

  72. I just read this excerpt and I feel that inadequacy even at my age. I tend to reach out to family members but not to my church family. Those are the times when I feel so lonely. I even wish I could have that friendship that I see others have. I also see that in my daughter who longs for that friendship.

  73. I know it can be difficult when you feel unconnected with people. In life there are people who are initiators and people who aren’t. Some of my best friends are the ones that I always have to put forth the effort but I found that when we are together they totally love on me. So I would encourage you to take a risk and continue to be an initiator until you find that perfect match. But before that (which I’m sure you already have done) continually asked the Lord in prayer to provide you with just that perfect friend who you were bless and who you will be blessed by.
    I am lifting you up in prayer 💕💕💕

  74. Love, Love ,Love the idea of doing what you fear because the outcome is worth the risk…And when led by the spirit, our God goes before us.

  75. I could really benifit from this book i believe. 10 yrs in my church and not a single person to call my best friend. Everyone has their clicks and no room for more, well for me anyway. Havent had friends to do things with since i turned my life back to the Lord 11 yrs ago. Thats sad. A couple of couples were promising to be but they moved out of town, never heard from them again. It is lonely when you have no one to do things with or just hang out. Never had problems not having friends before. I turn my life around and no one any more (which i knew that would happen) but not even church. Really??? When your in your 40s & 50s i guess other people are just set and comfortable. I just cant except that. I just dont understand people anymore. The old days are sure gone for sure.

  76. I really need this book! My husband and have been married 20 years and we’ve hit some rough patches. I have struggled desperately trying not to have insecurities and fear these past 8 months. Ugh! Very hard.

  77. I would really be blessed to read this book and share it with My 21 year old daughter who suffers from anxiety and depression. Prayers for My daughter her name is Cheyenne

  78. Good luck to everyone!
    I’m a single mom of three. I can’t wait to read more. I have moments of loneliness. I feel others may not understand. So I can relate. But I have to remind myself that god is here.

  79. I have been in ministry for forty years and have rarely had the joy of friendship. I really need to put inhibitions aside and allow myself the freedom to reach out. Ministry as a pastor with a pastor husband is a blessing and a lonely place if that makes any sense. Thanks for this book.

  80. I would love to have this book! I know it would really help me with my insecurities! God bless you for offering this!

  81. I can relate to what you are saying. I started a new job 9 months ago and I’m around people all day but feel lonely. I’m rather shy and afraid to put myself out there and start a conversation. The sentence that said being courageous doesn’t mean you are not afraid really is sticking in my head right now. I never thought of it that way. Can’t wait to read this book! Thanks 😊

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  82. This book appears to address some of the issues that I have been struggling with, but was not aware of the causes. God is good and as He continues to work in my life, He opens my eyes and heart to awareness of the healing powers of His Word

  83. Thank you for sharing the truth of our Father. Satan has a way of creeping into our thoughts to create that doubt and feeling of inadequacy. The truth and promise of our loving Father is are shield.

  84. “keep going in spite of it” Yesssss! A perfect message for this season of my life. I’d love to win a copy, excellent GIVEAWAY!

  85. She writes how I feel sometimes. I would love to read the whole book. Hoping to win! God Bless you with an amazing day!♥️

  86. Really enjoyed reading kayaks blog. Her book sounds great another great read. Her daughter sounds like she is quite a great helper.

  87. Added this to my “to read” list and very much looking forward to reading it! Thank you for the opportunity to possibly win a copy!

  88. I would “ABSOLUTELY LOVE” this as Gwen is such an “INSPIRATION” to me & God’s “LOVE” radiates through all her “SHARES”! I JUST “ADORE” HER! 😍🤗😍

  89. OMGOSH! God is doing amazing things in my life! I am excited and want to share Gods love and security with others just not sure where to begin! I love the phrase used “FRIENDSHIP HAPPENS, when someone risks starting the conversation”. That already helps! I’m putting that on my chalkboard cupboard! 🙂 I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to be blessed by Kaylas book “In Bloom”. Even the title sounds amazing!
    Blessings to y’all

  90. I am going to re read 2 Timothy . Just retired after 32 years at one job and who I am was my job. Fear and uncertainty is something I am facing. God has a plan. God is good but change is daunting.

  91. Hi Gwen,

    Thank you for the offer to win the book In Bloom by Kayla Aimee. I can relate to Kayla’s mention of feelings of isolation and insecurity and not wanting to feel this way cause then our mind leads us to loneliness thoughts. Interestingly, I’m several + several years past the 1/2 century mark and now in these latter years have these feelings. Each of us have unique life situations, which may contribute to inadequacy feelings and loneliness thoughts. We may be the leader, the encourager, the “friend” to others, but may struggle with having that special friend or friends due to life situations. I think Kayla’s book would be helpful to me and to many women I know.

    Thanks to GOD who blesses us through others. We can be double or triple the age of young women writers and still receive blessing by young authors.

    Thanks for the offer!

    Always in Season to Bloom

    1. Dear One, I am in that season of life as well. Semi-retired but knowing the loneliness that not having a special “bosom buddy” brings. Praying for you today.

  92. Love the courage quote by Ambrose Redmoon. I currently live in central FL, but my heritage for generations is from Clermont, GA. Beverly Head Howard

  93. Powerful words! I have a friend who recently lost her husband very unexpectedly as she tried to give him CPR. She has 3 daughters, 5, 11, and 14. Her grief has left her so vulnerable as she tries to pick up the pieces of her life. Her loneliness is so intense even while so many friends minister to her. She also lost a baby 8 years ago to a heart defect. She wonders where God is in her loneliness and sorrow. She needs a special miracle from God to deliver her. Please pray for Michelle.

  94. Oh, I am excited for the opportunity to win this book. Every day, despite my prayers, I swim upstream against my fears. I have had brain surgery, double knee replacement and living with my parents as a 50+ year old woman. I started back to school this past Fall, so there comes more fears. My major one being failure – failure as a person, as a daughter, as a friend, but mostly as a Christian. I truly believe that this book will be a good stepping stone in overcoming along with prayers.

  95. Feelings of inadequacy & loneliness comes in all shapes & sizes. It sometimes sneaks up when we are not looking & then grabs us from behind. This was a wonderful excerpt from your book that speaks to all of us! Thank you!! 💝

  96. Struggling with singleness for my whole life has often left me feeling like I’m inadequate and feeling like I don’t fit in with the married women at my church. I’m interested in reading Kayla Aimee’s account on how she deals with loneliness and feeling inadequate.

  97. Fear has been holding me back from living life that last few years. I have just become aware that is what has been keeping me from Joy. I am working on moving forward and this book looks like it would be very incouraging

  98. Wow… I’m poised to run….run from feeling alone in my marriage, feeling another marriage failure. I could do use this precious gift someone is going to win. Thanks for your generosity and for feeling free enough to bless all of us with your honesty.

  99. What is the cure for the loneliness that surrounds us, even when we aren’t alone and we know God? Interesting concept. I am interested to read more.

  100. This book sounds like something I would like to read and share with others. More and more I find fear is the underlying emotion that leads to anger, worry and so many other emotions. Fear is even going to keep me from leaving my last name. Imagine that, lol!

  101. As I grow older and my family gets busier with their families, I seem to get lost and feel neglected. My husband is my partner in all things, but I wonder what will happen if he dies before me. I know God is my lifeline, but will my family have time for them?
    I really would love to have this book!

  102. Making friends is definitely difficult as we get older. Our circles seem to get smaller. Insecurities do feed that as we struggle to trust. Our personalities do play a factor in this as well. Excited for what looks to be a great book.

  103. This book sounds exactly what I need to be reading right now! I just made the biggest major life changing move ever! After 47 years of living in CO we sold our business of 25 years & our home, packed all of our belongings and moved to Alaska! We do have one daughter here with two grandchildren, three of our other kids all moved within the same year to different states, to help better their lives, we left one son and his family in CO. Needless to say I am the one struggling to find a new career, meet friends, find a church, and feel like I belong in this new place where I know the Lord brought us too and made everything happen in his perfect timing. But it has still left me with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. Which makes me uneasy because I overcame these fears years ago but now they are creeping back into my mind. I talk to Jesus all day about everything but yet I need to hear him, really hear him, I wonder why he won’t speak out loud to me like he did to Moses, I thank God for my best friend from CO who guides me through my days and gives me spiritual advice and has a heart to reallly care about me. I need this book, which if I don’t win, I will buy because I love to read and read anything that will guide me closer to my father and his will for me.

  104. Wow, love this little snippet of the book. I could really relate to the statement “I’m secretly thinking is that I am afraid to risk living uncovered.” Would love to delve further into that insecurity and try to resolve that in my life.

  105. I totally relate to Kayla and how loneliness (not being alone, but lonely) leads to insecurities. I am married with children and love my family completely and I know they love me. However, I fear that I am not good enough for others. I want to “feel” loved and therefore, I am insecure. I would love to read Kayla’s book.

  106. When I think of the phrase “In the Bloom”, I think of a flower and how especially it is cultivated by God for its beauty. I believe that when God look down with love at the garden of flowers He has created. He looks at each flower collectively in a whole state waiting patiently for the buds to open flourishing in a healthy condition. When the bud opens and blooms, it of greatest beauty – God’s artistry – for the bud now has flourished and ready to thrive.
    That is how God looks at each of us, His awesome creation -His flower in the bloom!

  107. When I got this email I couldn’t believe how much it hit home. I don’t have kids, but I can relate to the part about being lonely. Even though I’m only 20 I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere. No matter who I talk to. I get along with people well, but actually becoming friends is a whole nother level. It’s been a long time since I actually had friends and really I feel discouraged and lonely most times. I feel like I can never measure up to people’s expectations. I feel like no one wants anything to do with me. Still, if I do win this giveaway I hope that it will help me a bit to be more confident and to believe and trust in God more.

  108. Loved your devotion – – I can totally relate! I have always been hesitant to try new things for fear of not “fitting in”. Would love to read your book,

  109. Thank you for the idea of the book. Often in life I felt in adequate to do anything since I was small. My parents were great people with insight and wisdom that they shared with others willingly. I felt so small, but my parents encouraged me to keeping progressing forward. I’m challenged with multiple medical conditions, but I try diligently to move forward each day, even if it’s just making the bed. I don’t recommend braking your thumbs. Dad always said to keep the sunshine in my heart and a smile on my face, which does make a difference. I hope to continue moving forward, but the book might enable me to find additional benefits. Thank you

  110. My fear (or actually it’s more of a worry) is always financial – how am I going to survive after the death of my husband last year and the loss of his income – how am I going to pay that bill, will they shut off my gas or electric because I’m behind on the bill, how am I going to survive? But I’ve learned that giving it up to God eases my stress and somehow I’ve been able to get by. I ask Him to give me just what I need and he always does. He is such a loving and giving God! Thank you Lord for Your never ending love!

  111. I would love to win a copy of this book- women need more books like these. I want to overcome fears that I wrestle with often. God bless

  112. Would love a copy of this book! I have been working on building confidence and overcoming letting fear get in the way of life! Thanks for the chance to win!

  113. Beautifully written, it’s like reading a note from an old friend that knows exactly how you feel and offers the words of encouragement that you need! Thank you for sharing!

  114. I would love to read your book Kayla!. And Gwen, I cannot express how much GIG help me to have a balanced day! Thank y’all so much for all that y’all do.!☺️


  115. There nothing to lose in fulfilling a deeper fear with God. The struggle is so real on a daily basis especially with kids. Mine are grown, still the counseling is needed at times. The fears of being successful go far more as being a parent as to a wife, or a friend. Always wondering where I went wrong God seems to show me what I did right, it’s harder to see were I may have went wrong. I know I’ve dived into to this walk with God handing over my worries and fears to him! Thanks for your words of encouragement!

  116. I am way older than you but have fought with insecurities my entire life. It doesn’t help that my husband of 26 1/2 years is divorcing me because he no longer finds me attractive or interesting. Talk about another HUGE blow to my self-esteem. Would love to read your book as I am sure I will find some help in my recovery journey from it.

  117. I felt very insecure for a very long time. But getting older, and closer to the Lord and my husband has helped with isolation and fear. I feel more secure in who I am in Christ and in my relationship with others.

  118. Wow , that is moving and so relatable to myself as I’m sure so many other women ! Great job Kaya Aimee! I love this writing style as well !
    I also am a Southern , sweet tea loving girl !

  119. Hi! It was by chance I sat down and read about your back because I don’t always get to look at all my emails sitting here waiting for my daughter at the dentist God use this opportunity to speak to me loud and clear yes there are others out there that feel just the same just when you think you’re the only one! I have struggled feeling alone for quite some time particularly because I was in a cult with my first husband For 15 years that lead to much isolation and I still struggling with how going about making friends feeling like I’ve lost the edge! I’m very excited about your book the way God will speak to me through it And yes I would love the opportunity to win a copy as my finances are pretty tight this time year thank you so much for reaching out and writing such a book❣️In Christ, Karen

  120. This seems like the perfect book for me! I’m always feeling like my “better self” is hidden away as if to protect myself from “life”. I’ve had a very hard life and my experiences have in a sense, hardened me, creating my inadequacy and frustration. This book is on my list of “must reads”!

  121. I enjoying the reading today. It really sounded so familiar. It was an encouragement to be able to fellowship through this article. I would like to read the entire book, since this exert was so “personal”. Would be delighted to win a copy. Thank you for sharing.

  122. Good morning,
    I would love the opportunity to win this book!! I was verbally abused by both of my parents and physically and sexually abused by my Dad. I have struggled all my life with fear and feelings of not being good enough for anyone or anything or this world because I was never loved or good enough for my parents!!!! When I found God I know I have a loving Heavenly Father who loves me unconditionally, but I still struggle to find my place in this big world and fear seems to grip me!!!!! I think reading your book could really help me!!! If I don’t win I might have to purchase this book!
    Have a blessed day!!! 😊

  123. Oh my goodness she is speaking directly to me and about me! I’m working hard in 2018 on addressing my fear of loneliness and my future. I’m widowed and empty nest and living on my own for the first time in my entire life! Such an inspirational excerpt!

  124. I’ve got this new friend. She and I were just saying how great it is to have each other. It was a choice we made to speak to each other at the time we did….rushing out of one of our fave thai restaurants. As we looked up at each other….we even had the same haircut. And hardly anyone has our haircut. It made us chuckle even before our first introductions.

  125. This excerpt is just “delicious” ! What an uplifting delivery and refreshing presentation! There is nothing that touches and reaches like candid true life experience. I would love to read more, and will definitely recommend to friends!!

  126. Truth- Adult-Friending is hard stuff! And it shouldn’t be! We teach our kids about friendship, but we struggle with it probably just as much (or more) as they do! God bless you!!!

  127. Wow!! Incredibly insightful and powerful. How I remember those days. Brought back some really great memories. Thank you😊

  128. I would love to win this for my 23 yr old daughter who has just started her nursing career in a different state. She is in a really tough growth period right now and this looks like it would be really helpful.

  129. Enjoyed the excerpt from this book as I have been feeling alone lately even in a crowd. I have recently joined a new church and moved back home and am participating in alumni events of a service organization where everyone is from the same area who went to school and I have not. I feel alone. One on one conversations are fine. To be in a roomful of people where everyone is in cliques is hard. I can relate to this book and it’s authenticity. However, reading my Bible makes me feel less alone.

  130. Sounds like an awesome book. Thank you for entering me in your drawing. Hope I have the opportunity to be drawn. If not will probably purchase and share with a close friend.

  131. I am learning that adequacy only comes as we learn who we are in Christ…in and of our own we are inadequate…Love the book title…indeed we have to step out of our comfort zone…

  132. I have won a Friday Giveaway once and was so pleased to have won! This time I am entering in hopes of winning the book to give to my best friend. I think this book would really help her with her feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. Thank you for sharing Gwen and Kayla Aimee!

  133. Wow!!! Kayla Aimee’s blog post about her new book, Bloom, is exactly what I am seeing in my 30 something daughters and in my Bible Study group of women in their 30-40’s who I mentor. This is so true. Women need connection with other women, but fear being exposed and not loved for their true self. I would love to read the entire book and share it with all of the women in my life.

  134. I can do relate to the struggle with loneliness and fear. Both my parents died this past year and I feel as abandoned. Would love to read all of your book.

  135. I am 58 years old and just now realizing how I’ve struggled with fear my entire life and it has affected my health! God has been so kind in directing me to verses that help and leading me to read books like yours. Thank you for using your gift to help others!

  136. This is an issue I have had for a long time, I was very shy as a child into my teens, It wasn’t until I got married and had a child that I become bold enough to speak up! After all I had a child and if I didn’t protect and speak up for her I felt I would not be a good mother. But it still hard for me to make friends, close friends, I don’t want to let anyone close do to the fact that I might get hurt! So when someone got to close I would do something stupid to sever the relationship. This is a book I would definitely buy and read over and over.

  137. I would love to read this book,.as pastor hubby and I are in ‘transition’ as we seek Him to lead, guide, & direct us to another (yet unknown) ministry service assignment.

  138. I have lived with fear and anxiety all my life. The following spoke to me:

    “This is how we have the spirit of power and love, by knowing that in our weakness God lends us strength. In embracing that promise of truth, we continue on through our fear.”

    “Oftentimes overcoming doesn’t mean we no longer experience fear, it just means we keep going in spite of it.” I would love to read Kayla Aimee’s new book “In Bloom”. Thank you Kayla and Gwen for the opportunity to win a copy.

  139. Dealing with a separation from my husband has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I can really relate to feeling lonely even with a crowd and the self doubt and insecurity. My hope is still in reconciliation but it’s a long road.

  140. This is ME! I almost deleted the email without reading to free up my inbox and something ( GOD!! Duh! ) prompted me to read the excerpt from In Bloom! Beautifully written! 💜🙏🏻💐🌷🌸🌺

  141. So true! And so powerful to realize that it’s not getting rid of the fear entirely but trusting the Lord as we plow through it! Victory!

  142. I loved the excerpt that Kayla Aimee wrote. I felt like it was a page out of my own life. I am so glad to know that I am not alone in my struggles!!

  143. I am a 65 year old divorced after 40 years woman…I am realizing more and more that I don’t often fit in any group. Many women in my circumstance are sometimes lonely in the church. We need to reach out to each other and discover what God has in store for us.

  144. Thanks, Gwen!!! for introducing me to Kalya!!!! Girl I have a new friend!!!! Her words touched my heart and life!!! I look forward to reading her post and can not wait to get my copy of her new book. I had to order it today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  145. All my life I’ve been consumed with so many fears. I don’t know why I grew up that way. So insecure, the littlest thing was hard; I was afraid; feeling I could not do very much.

  146. Oh my Jeez…did you ever hit the head on the nail. I’m 56 and just when I think I’ve conquered my fears they come sneaking back along with some insecurity. I just pray that one day it will all go away. I know it will because the Bible tells us that “this too shall.pass” so we trudge on and believe and have faith in our Maker. Anyhoo, would love this book if I’m picked and definitely pass it on to someone else that I know can use it, actually may let them read it 1st, just how I am. I normally put others before me lol😊 Be blessed!

  147. This is a very insightful and enjoyable post. I, at the age of 65 and still wrestling with big issues, am always amazed at the depth and wisdom of certain young people. God bless you Kayla in your writing ministry. Thank you for stepping out and up.

  148. This is exactly what I need!! Leaving my career and dealing with physical issues, I find my whole life changing and I’m terribly lost. A lot of people I thought were friends forgot me….people look at me and think “she’s not really disabled”…..I feel useless to God in this season. I want to quit these circling doubts and self critiquing….it only makes things worse! Help me face this season of change and feel useful again Dear Lord!!

  149. I was needing this today as I am going to a networking conference today. I struggle a lot with talking to people I don’t know and wonder what they think about me. I know that God has greater things for me but first I need to get out of my shell and be bold! Thank you for sharing!

  150. I can’t wait to read the rest of this story! I have found that most women suffer from some sort of insecurity. Some wear it on the outside, and some hide it under a seemingly tough exterior! God is the real and only source of security. When we learn to trust Him and let Him take the lead, we can find the strength we never knew we had!

  151. I could so use this book to help me conquer my fears. I need to stop being isolated and start making friends and nourishing the ones I’ve neglected. Loneliness seems to take over everything sometimes. Thanks for being an encouragement.

  152. I’ve always felt inadequate and insecure since I was a child like I don’t belong here it has been easier to live with as I’ve gotten older thank you so much for offering this free giveaway I hope and pray I win God bless you

  153. I too have a fear of bridges. I’m not sure what caused it, but my whole being tenses up when one comes my way. I even carry a tool in my car that will break the window and cut my seat belt, in case I go over the bridge into the water below. It’s terrufying to me , but as you said, courage is not the absence of fear. It’s doing it anyway fir something more important. “Bloom” sounds like a wonderful addition to my inspirational library. Thank you.

  154. Thank you for speaking the words I needed to hear. I feel at my age I shouldn’t be overwhelmed with the dear of inadequacy but I am. And it does hold me back so much. Thank you!

  155. I look forward to reading the book, “in bloom”. I enjoy reading the Girlfriends in God articles and Gwen Smith. May Hod continue to bless your ministry.

  156. Would love to win this book. Besides being insecure since I was a child I love the name of the book too. Thanks for offering this giveaway. God bless you.

  157. This looks like a book I can relate with. I think as women we often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Hearing how another Christian woman deals with this would be helpful.

  158. I love the title of this book! It is refreshing and what a wonderful topic one that touches all our lives to some level!! I can’t wait to read!!

  159. I lost my dearest friend to cancer…..and, while I know she can never be replaced I just can’t seem to be able to put myself out there to try to enjoy other friendships. I find myself comparing and withdrawing back into my shell of protection. I’m not sure what I am afraid of.

  160. I loved the preview of your book. I am going through a difficult breakup and being isolated from those that I love with all my heart scares me. Thank you for giving me the encouragement that I need to know that everything will be okay as long as I trust in God.

  161. Feelings of insecurity and loneliness overwhelm my life. Hesitant or afraid to let people get closed or fear of being rejected. So want to be Free of all these unhealthy feelings.

  162. Hi Gwen,
    I can honestly say… I haven’t really had “friends” since grade school… I don’t really know why, but do think it’s out of fear. Fear of rejection, not being good enough… the list is long. My Lord (forever) and my husband have been friends, but now that children are grown, there is a void… Where does a grown woman find a friend? Perhaps this book could help me figure that out?

  163. Thank you for introducing yourself to us and sharing about your new book! I’d love to be one of the winners! Have a blessed day ❤️

  164. I would like this book for myself and one for my daughter who is struggling to overcome substance abuse. I am almost 62, so there is no age limit to learning about yourself and accepting or changing (if that is His and your desire) who you are or who you see yourself to be.

  165. being alone is fearful and empty. I have went from being a dependent mom, wife, and nana to being alone all the time. my husband of 38 years left me for another woman (me with no clue anything was wrong in our marriage ) youngest daughter went home to be with the Lord 3 years ago my oldest daughter divorce her husband last year has a new man in her life that is dangerous and she is withholding my two grand-daughters i have kept 70% of the time since they were born one 9 one 6.I don’t know what to do been alone and lonely thanks Bonnie

  166. Love that quote and movie! I’m putting on my brave face by His Grace in the face of fear and uncertainties every day right now. Just moved to a new town – 6 hours from home. New job. New church. Rental house. New…. and we just sold our house back home yesterday- that’s a blessing and a fear. I feel like my security blanket has been taken away. The struggle is real BUT GOD!

  167. Wow! You hit the nail on the head with that one. Fear…..I hate it but can’t seem to shake it! Thank you for sharing with us. I would love to read your book!

  168. I find myself more fearful lately as I approach my retirement years. It should be joyful, but I’m finding it very scary. Being alone is one of my major fears, especially since my Mom and Dad are in Heaven now.

  169. As an adult with ADHD I have days I need to get away but my toddler want allow it. I’m blessed to have a support system I can trust. Its not easy being in fear and think you are alone.

  170. I have always been a loner not particularly because I wanted to. I just never seemed to fit in anywhere. Then several years ago I felt that God was calling me out of “church” to learn from Him. This has been hard and very lonely, but He provided a wonderful group of ladies for me to fellowship with. He is such a good God so I am trusting Him to refine me and fill the lonely places in my heart.

  171. I’m in constant pursuit of pushing away the lonely thoughts & fear of abandonment. The verse Psalm 121:7-8 has been brought to me twice this week. I even experience thoughts that He will not favor me because of my imperfections. That’s not true & I’m reminded, “The Lord will watch over your coming & going, both now & forevermore”.

  172. I love the little girl’s conversation. My girls have grown and moved away, but I remember such conversations.
    I have some of the same fears that i will be left all alone some day even though I have family. I feel a little deserted sometimes now.

  173. “So like I said, I’m rarely alone, but this doesn’t mean I don’t find myself in pockets of solitude, feeling isolated and insecure. Loneliness breeds my insecurity.”


  174. Would LOVE to read THIS. Loosing my husband of 46 years , a year and half ago, that has been a real challenge to not fear things being alone. I’m finishing one good book and ready for another one. Please!

  175. That was such a powerful excerpt. I cannot wait to read it but most importantly share it with a friend i feel is shutting away because of these very things your book speaks on.

  176. I don’t know why I’ve always had that niggling fear of inadequacy which leads to insecurity. It has caused me to overreach to compensate, to raise my hand too often and to work harder at fulfilling God’s plans for me. I’m working on being bold for His sake. Strangely enough, I was more lonely when raising my two boys on my own than I am now that they’ve grown up and I live alone.
    I must read this book! After all I’m an avid gardener and try to bloom wher I’m planted.

  177. I have struggled with fear of being alone and insecurity my entire life. I have become very good at covering it up. I would love to discover how Kayla Aimee uncovers the ways to deal with this and/or overcome it.

  178. You hit the nail on the head for me: “If I leave first, I don’t have to risk the aftermath of being abandoned.” Story of my life.

  179. Kayla, your piece was so spot on for me. I was nodding with mixed emotions, because my own fears/concerns were in now in black and white. My own mothers fears for me, i was reading outloud. But God, says this i am not to worry and your book it appears would be just collection of words of confirmation.

    Thank you for sharing

  180. Such a great topic for women. I am entering for the chance to give this book to a close friend of mine who struggles with this. Thank you for this opportunity
    Blessings to you

  181. Wow! Such truth! I had never thought of it that way..about friendships. In the midst of great transition and feeling a bit lost..downsized from a job I loved , husband retired, moved to a new state. About the only thing we miss from our old life is our friends and our church..where most of them were. How do you get past that fear of putting yourself out there to make new friends has been in my prayers! I was super shy as a child an thought I had overcome it..but now I’m wondering.

  182. As long as the enemy is out to kill, steal and destroy us we will be susceptible to fear, breeding all kinds of other negativities and insecurities. Our only defense is the armor of God.

  183. Oh, Kayla, I saw myself as I was reading your excerpt! I’m way past the age of toddlers but I’m a full-time caregiver for my elderly and disabled father. I’m never alone but sometimes the loneliness just grabs hold of me. Thank you for putting into words what I’ve been thinking/feeling and unwilling to share with others because I felt it would somehow make me seem “less” in their eyes. I’m looking forward to reading the rest of your book.

  184. God never ceases to amaze me, a woman of 65, how he speaks through the writings of younger, Godly women! Thank you for writing In Bloom!

  185. I don’t think anyone can escape fear, but sharing that fear with others might help us cope and diminish our fears. Looking forward to reading Kayla’s book!

  186. Loved the post! Lonely and inadequate, two words that I’m very familiar with. The quote you used was spot on! Your book is exactly what the doctor ordered!

  187. The fear of rejection, because I’m not good enough, is something I still struggle with at 61 years of age. I’m so thankful for the friends God has blessed me with in this season that love me unconditionally.

  188. I am probably this book. I have many insecurities that hold me back from enjoying life and people. I try to push them away. When it works it’s only temporary. I read myself in the excerpt.

  189. I love the cover, looks 3-dimensional.
    I would love to share this book with my Sunday school class. Very truthful and open. Thanks for the sample.

  190. “Because if I leave first, I don’t have to risk the aftermath of being abandoned.”

    That statement sums up my past reaction to life and relationships. Thankfully God is teaching me His ways, His courage, His confidence. I shudder at the historical opportunities lost because I jumped ship first out of fear instead of pressing into God and pressing forward. Thank you for speaking to my heart this morning and letting me know I am not alone in this!

  191. I love your books, they have helped me through some very trying times and I would love to get this one!!! Thank you for everything you do!!!!

  192. This is just what I need and what my sister needs! She is so lonely in her house since her husband died and I miss my best female friend of 28 years since she died of cancer.

  193. I definitely want to read this book! One of the things that I struggle with is relationships with other women. I don’t know if I expect too much or I have an unrealistic expectation of what girlfriends should look like. Insecurities is something I’ve struggled with my whole life. I have gotten better with many things, but still have areas that are a real daily struggle. Thank you for having the courage to write about this topic!

  194. I have not made a friend since my kids grew up and left home. We moved several states away leaving all of my friends far away. It is not easy making a friend when you fear being rejected. Very excited about this book.

  195. I thought I was alone in feeling this way. I have “friends” but only because I don’t open up. If I did, we wouldn’t be “friends”. I miss having friends, even one. I dream about old friends and we have reconciled. I’m lonely.

  196. As a soon-to-be senior who is still dealing with the aftermath of abandonment by my mother at age four; your line, “Because if I leave first, I don’t have to risk the aftermath of being abandoned.” really resonated with me. Wow! Perhaps that’s why I’ve been such a ‘runner’ all my life. Perhaps that’s why I’ve ruined relationships before the other person would ruin it first.

    Thank you for your comment and the entire excerpt that gave me much to think about as I tackle the house and my talk with God today. And, thank you for your generous give-away. Blessings.

  197. Fear and insecurity are so common in our human nature, I would love to read this book and then pass it on to the residents of a domestic violence center that I work for.

  198. I am newly retired and find myself giving
    Into fear of the unknown more than any other time in my life. Receiving the gift of your book would be such a god send. Thank you for the opportunity to put into words what my heart has been feeling.

  199. I would LOVE to read Kayla’s book!!! I too have a fear of bridges among other things. Thank you for the opportunity to qualify!!!

  200. This sounds like my granddaughter Lilli and her momma on a daily basis 🙂 I would love to win this book and share it with my daughter. Thank you!

  201. Wow, this post could have been about me. I’m on the down side of 60 and still struggle with these feelings of loneliness and inadequacy especially when in a group. Even when they are “friends”.

  202. Wonderful read this morning! I so relate, especially to the loneliness factor. Why do we as women breed such insecurities? I am constantly balancing a line between reminding myself who I am in Christ so I don’t feel so inadequate and checking my heart to ensure I’m not making everything all about me! I am truly grateful for Godly women who write from their heart with honesty and transparency 😊 thank you!

  203. As a 56 year old woman I still experience fear. Knowing that Christ’s Peace is there for the asking is what keeps me from falling victim to the enemy’s lies. Praise Him for He is Glorious!

  204. I always fill alone are lonely..But God told me one day you’re never alone I’m here with you. I surround my love around you. I’m still alone cause I do deeply want his closeness and to know he really their.It’s really hard for me at this moment cause I deeply desire him.and his love for me.

  205. How inspirational! I really feel God wanted me to read this today. For I have been struggling with fear of loneliness after recent breakup.
    Thank you for your inspiring words😀

  206. Starting the conversation, friend. In bloom. WOW! we so need this open up our thoughts to journey our souls from the inside out. Powerful!

  207. We all have the desire to be accepted/approved and yet we are vulnerable. Friends are worth taking the risk. As I battle cancer, I realize just how important my friends are.

  208. I feel you, sister, I definitely need a little alone time to refresh before I go back into the world with my happy face. I also find it hard to make friends now that I’m older and so sometimes I give up.

  209. Thank you for sharing your private moment of needing a private moment…I so remember those times with my 3 grown boys. I look forward to reading your book