Princess Problems

Gwen Smith Blog, Christian Living, Devotions, Forgiveness, Trusting God 9 Comments

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My friend Ellen is a preschool teacher who regularly contends with entitled toddlers and privileged preschoolers who know how to major on some minors and throw down some serious tantrums.

I want the red crayon, but Tommy has it!

I’m not eating this because it has white cheese. I only like yellow cheese.

I want to go first!

I’m allowed. You’re not my boss.

Miss Ellen calls these little escapades “princess problems,” and she does her best to lovingly redirect the heart of each young complainer toward the reality of his or her blessings and toward the virtue of patience, selflessness, kindness, sharing, etc..

Hardly a day goes by that the kingdom of her kiddie classroom isn’t inundated with princess problems. The outbursts are common. Most are simple issues to address, but occasionally they can become a minefield of messy mayhem that disrupts a special moment.

As I reflect on this, it occurs to me that even though I’m adult I’ve got my own fair share of princess problems. At times I throw myself in a tizzy and worry about things that don’t need to be given a second thought. I make a big deal out of situations that do not have eternal consequences just because I might be temporarily inconvenienced or offended.

I can’t believe I have to go to the grocery store again. This is the third time this week!

It took them over an hour to change the oil in my car today. Over an hour!

The pastor’s sermon was way too long and the music was loud.

In the Old Testament, Daniel could’ve complained about his problems. But he didn’t. Not even as he faced impending death when he was thrown in a den of lions. Instead, he remained devoted to God and honored the Lord while humbly serving the king who brutally destroyed his hometown and took he, and his friends, captive to Babylon.

In the New Testament, the apostle Paul endured extreme hardships during his missionary journeys. He was attacked by murderous mobs, beaten, betrayed, flogged, arrested, starved, shipwrecked three times, and bitten by a viper… all while serving God! Nice, right? Though he had every earthly reason to whine about the stuff he went through, Paul didn’t. To the contrary, he wrote a letter about joy and perseverance to encourage the believers in the church of Philippi from prison. He encouraged others instead of griping about the mess he’d been through, and in spite of the limitations he was constrained by.

Ah! Perspective.

Yes. I am a daughter of the Most High, King of kings. A noble princess in God’s kingdom with an endless and enchanting inheritance. I am not, however, entitled to grumble and complain about pithy little annoyances. Not even about big things!


Princess problems don’t fly with God. There’s no loophole.

Paul wrote about this very thing in that letter he sent to the Philippians.

Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life. (Philippians 2:14-16a)

Imagine what our loved ones and co-workers would think if you and I actually live these verses out. If we stop complaining. If we choose to be blameless and pure worshipers who trust God’s sovereignty in the inconvenient, uncomfortable, and even the worst of times.

What would it look like for you and I to hold firmly to the word of life … to sparkle instead of spew?

Let’s make a deal. You and me…

The next time we get shipwrecked in our own imaginations and begin to drown in the petty dramas of our own making, let’s straighten our crooked tiaras and ask God to adjust our crooked attitudes. In doing so we’ll move forward in the strength, dignity, and joy of Jesus.

In His grace, Jesus quiets our princess problems and purifies us to shine like stars in the sky for the glory of God.


Holy Father,
Please forgive me for the times I get flustered and freaked out over things that don’t matter. Forgive me, also, when I fail to trust You with heavy and hard trials. I want to be a woman who lives with the strength, joy, and dignity of Jesus. Help me shine for You today, Lord. In Jesus’ name, amen.




Read Philippians 4:1-9. Take note of the peace available to believers who exercise faith and choose to think and behave as we are instructed to think and behave.

Pray about specific stresses in your heart that might be knocking your tiara off balance. Leave a comment about it and lets pray for and encourage one another today.


ON THE PERSONAL SIDE… this princess is pooped! Over the past few weeks, the Smiths have been movin’ and groovin’ every which way but loose! My oldest son, Preston, graduated from high school (hold me), my middle son, Hunter, got his first job, and my baby-girl, Kennedy, took driver’s education classes (consider this your official warning). #joking #kindof  🙂  We’ve also hosted family from out of town, had a graduation party for Preston, and traveled to and back from the beach for my daughter’s volleyball tournament (which they WON! Woohoo!). SO… I’ve been off the bloggy radar a bit. Please forgive. Grace. Grace. Grace. {Right!?} 😉 Anyhoo, just letting you know that I’m looking forward to us connecting regularly this summer and I hope and pray that you are being encouraged by these posts.



What? You want to see a picture of my son’s graduation? Okay. But only because you asked…


Smiles of Smiths



Comments 9

  1. Thank you an inspiring message. I like the scripture which reminds us not to complain about everything. I really want to live this verse. Being a child of God is wonderful .

  2. We are all princesses if Jesus is our Savior. God of course is our Father. But I like that you shared that being a “princess” doesn’t give us the entitlement to mistreat or take advantage of others. It does give us the opportunity to shine for Jesus so that others may be drawn to Him Thanks so much for your inspiring messages.

  3. I’m usually a very giving person. My granddaughter is pregnant so she is staying with my husband and me right now. My elderly mother-in-law can’t stay by herself now so she will be staying with me. I’ll be 60 in August. Three women in the house will be stressful, especially the any day now mother with all her emotions and the pre Alzheimer’s woman that is mean out of the blue. Please pray for us. We’ll be needing it.

  4. I love God with my whole heart. He is such a great father and king. I am proud to be his queen. What troubles me is my boyfriend isn’t a believer and I had to leave him again because he doesn’t want anything to do with God. Him and his friends laugh and make fun of me. I know God is the only path I choose to walk, I want to expand my faith and I know I can’t do that with a man who wouldn’t ever support me in this. I love him but I love God first and forever. I’m hurt by the words my boyfriend says because I follow Christ. I know God is good all the time and he will heal my wounds. I chose God know matter how many people laugh and make fun of me . I’m hoping to learn how to speak to those who are non believers. Thank you for everything you do, you truly help me so much.

  5. You are so real and I love that. I have things going on sometimes and you know just what to share. Thank you for words of encouragement. I love this site!

  6. I am enlighten by your blogs every time that I read them, thank you for sharing. I need prayers for my financial situations that only God can help. Please pray for financial blessings for my family and I . I believe in the Power of Prayer thru our Lord And Savior Jesus Christ. Thank you and God Bless you. P.S. I’ve never done anything like this before but something is compelling me to do it. Praise God!

  7. Thank you for your inspiring words and prayers!!
    Congratulations to your son on his graduation!!

    Peace and Blessings,
    Sonya Hull

  8. So blessed by your honest and loving blogs. Please pray with me for my son, his wife and my two wonderful grandchildren.
    Thanks again for giving of your life.

  9. I am asking God to lead me and guide me to do what He has destined for me to to do. I am asking God to heal my body from renal failure, to bless me financially so that not only am I able to handle the things I need to, but so that I may have to finances to help and bless others. I ask that God will keep me full of joy and peace in all things. In Jesus name, Amen!

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