The Little Black Dress of Faith

Gwen SmithBlog, Wisdom 9 Comments

The wisdom from above is first of all pure. (James 3:17a, NLT)

All throughout the Bible, we see that wisdom is the real deal when it comes to spiritual must-haves. I like to think of it as the little black dress of faith. An essential must-have for every Christian woman to possess and wear. And surely one that we all look good in!

But in today’s world, it can be tricky to make wise decisions and choices. We’re surrounded by foolish and conflicting messages. Messages that oppose the wisdom of God as revealed in Scripture. We get hit from all sides with opinions, posts, and tweets about what people have and want and do—and about what people think is right and wrong.

They write it on signs and walk picket lines in an attempt to sway us in their direction.

They Instagram it, pin it on Pinterest, send e-petitions to our in-boxes, and blog about it.

And then there’s the media that screams like a colicky baby, demanding that we take note of the angle that they are trying to sell as acceptable behavior.

One thing’s for sure, there’s a wide difference between the wisdom of God and the wisdom of the world. When I say wide, I mean Grand Canyon wide. I mean the distance-between-the-east-coast-of-America-and-the-west-coast-of-Europe wide!

Here’s what James had to say about godly wisdom:

The wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.” (James 3:17 NLT)

Does that sound like the world to you? Pure? Peace loving? Gentle? Willing to yield? Full of mercy and good deeds? Fair and sincere? I think not.

Keeping these truths in mind helps me as a friend. When I’m tempted to vent my frustration about that other person, God’s wisdom reminds me to be a woman of peace.

It helps me as a Jesus follower. When I’m tempted to read a book or watch a movie that is fifty shades of compromise, God’s wisdom reminds me that I’m to be a holy, pure vessel for Him.

Here’s a refreshing truth: When the world shouts its ways that are contrary to the wisdom of God, I have a choice. I really do. I might not feel like it, but I do. I get to choose my response even when the pressures of political correctness squeeze hard. Even in my workplace. Those pressures are indicators that I need to address the issue and not run from it or cave in to it.

My behavior is my choice, no one else’s.

And I want my choices to align with the ageless wisdom of the all-knowing God.

So I choose to put on my little black dress of faith.

And some cute shoes, of course!


I want Your wisdom. Please direct my choices, my behaviors, and my heart. Forgive me for the times when I look to others or to myself when I should be looking to You.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.



Where is your little black dress of faith? Choose one:

  1. “I don’t have one, but I’m asking God for one today!”
  2. “Stuck in the back of my heart closet. I really need to dig it out.”
  3. “At the dry cleaners! Wore it last week but need to pick it up today!”
  4. “Wearing, it, baby! Dazzling with His amazingness! Party on!”

Where do you want it to be? Swing by my blog and leave a comment. Let’s discuss this as a community today.

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  1. Hi Gwen, I appreciate all you write. Gives me hope. Not sure if I understand the little black dress motto. But, I think is means wearing my faith for all to see. Well it can be hard at my work, especially when some ladies don’t like me and want to trip me. Since, they know I’m a Christian. Father help me to share your Love unconditionally. Also, to be a peacemaker.

  2. I have a question. When it talks about yielding to others in the scripture…..can you elaborate on that? Does it mean letting others talk first, share their beliefs????

  3. Mine is an on again/off again little black dress. But thanks Gwen, for a great reminder to wear that dress each and every day!

  4. Thank you so much for sharing this. I don’t know if I even have a little black dress of faith. I know that He knows where I am in my walk with Him. I tend to be overly hard on my self. I need to forgive myself and give myself grace. Today I choose to look to Him for His wisdom.

  5. Thanks Gwen for your wonderful posts. I am trying to wear my little black dress but fail many days. Fear and worry seem to have taken over some days. I strive for that little black dress daily!

  6. Lord today I am wearing my amazing little black dress of faith but Lord I pray for all the women who may not be in the same place I am because of all the many many difficult challenges of this life. Please strengthen them, put your loving arms around them, give them your peace and help that to know even if their faith is small as a mustard seed you can use that and they can rest in you. In Jesus name amen!!

  7. Hello, Forgive me, I am not sure what you are trying to say. I understand the wisdom part and agree. Are you referring to current events?

    1. Gwen is taking about more than just current events, although that may be part of it. What I think she means is choosing to have true alignment with the heart of God. We can only do that in the power of the Spirit, not of our own strength.

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