Who Defines Your Worth?

Gwen Smith Beauty, Blog, Devotions, Holiness, Trusting God, Value, Worth 155 Comments

 You are precious

Years ago, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It was a hoodie made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zipped up in the front and was well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.

When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home – fully anticipating a shriek of happiness from my little bag-of-beans when I gave it to her.

I wasn’t disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around… until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price.

Are you tensing up with me?

Suddenly, I felt schnookered! As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed in my mind – Kennedy’s jacket wasn’t worth what I paid for it.

When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, the jacket I bought was thirty-nine dollars, and a week later it was nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn’t change, but its’ perceived worth did.

Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable and shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn’t it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feelings of worthlessness? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it’s because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.

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There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:

Because they’ve been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused…)

Because they’ve been told that they’re worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another…)

Because of choices they’ve made or that have been made for them (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger…)

Because they’ve been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography…)

Because they’re co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – “If my husband isn’t okay, I’m not okay.”)

Because they don’t collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability…)

Because they’ve battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can’t drive, cook…)

Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We’ve felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional; broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion – how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.

Trust me, I’m not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth or about being a woman of worth. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. I’m constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I’ve come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6a).

What I DO know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I’m a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. We are His daughters, made in His image, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.

Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God’s daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. {Tweet this!} That’s exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! God wants every one of us to experience hope and healing in Christ and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.

So let’s go back to Kennedy’s new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God’s department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it’s crazy expensive – way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.

“It’s a perfect fit,” He smiles.

“Sir,” you manage with a whisper, “I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I’m, well, just an ordinary girl.”

“Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full.”

As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands – nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.

You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone’s bargain rack again.

Holy Father, I’m humbled to be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty as a woman of worth! In Jesus’s name, amen.


RESPONSE TIME: Ready to put your emotions in their proper place? CLICK HERE to leave this comment of God-confidence in the comments section: “I am a woman of worth!” Additionally, post a prayer need or let me know what the Lord is taught you or reminded you about through this post.

Thanks for doing life with me,


** This post is an excerpt from my book Broken into Beautiful. My full testimony is featured in the book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives … including your own. Experience God’s healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! ** To order the book, go to Amazon or for a signed copy, click here.

***Here’s a song that I co-wrote with the same title as my book, Broken into Beautiful. If you connected with the content of this post, then you will connect with the message of the song.***


Comments 155

  1. I really needed that devotion. I am going through a rough separation from my husband. The last two weeks have been a really rough road. But, I know what I am worth in the eyes of Christ. I know that He loves me and no matter what someone else says I nothing or worthless, I know what Christ said about me.

  2. Praise God for this great sharing Gwen!! I was really emotional in reading your post as I see myself being worthless from the people surrounding me. But Praise The Lord!! Iam worth to be counted in my family, workplace and community after reading your post and it has really boosted me to stand up despite what others think of me. Thank you once again dear Sister!

  3. Yes I so love this Gwen!! Such a wonderful reminder indeed of my worth and who I am in Christ. I thank God so much for His love and for sending His Son the Lord Jesus Christ to die on the Cross for our sins and arising on the third day remembering our sins no more. Because of Jesus I have been made whole despite my past, despite what people have called me or perceived me to be. I am the Righteousness of God in Christ Jesus!! I am a daughter of the King of Kings, so precious, so highly valuable (despite two failed marriages and five kids) and I never have to worry about being on anyone’s bargain rack ever again. Thank you for this encouragement from His Word too in Isaiah 43:4a

  4. I believe I’m a woman of worth! God also blessed me with a husband of 22 years that also feels I am. God is so good.

  5. I am a woman of worth!!! I’m SO glad that this article reminded me of that!!! I will no longer be on someone’s bargain rack!!! I am worthy in God’s eyes!!! I am a daughter of the King of Kings!!! Hallelujah!!!!

  6. I AM a woman of worth! I so enjoy your wonderful insights and encouragements Gwen. God has greatly placed upon your heart to reach out to those who need a lift and encouragement along the way. I truly want God to use me for His glory in all that I do. My prayer request is for a f/t job that God will lead me to as the job I just had for a year, has been eliminated due to re-structuring. I so loved what I did and the money was helping us as we are in the middle of adoption from the USA. We live in Canada and would appreciate your prayers. God bless and keep you and thank you for being YOU!! Love you…. Brenda K.

  7. I am a woman of Worth! Thank you for such lovely words of encouragement. I was reared by a father who always made me feel worthless which I carried on through my adulthood. I’ve made so many mistakes looking for love in all the wrong places looking for worth but haven’t found it until now in Jesus Christ. Am a woman who has found true pure love in Jesus. Praise God for grace!!!

  8. Thank you Gwen for your inspiring blog! You really do understand and empathize with the difficulties of the female condition. By sharing your spiritual wisdom you have made your readers feel that He sees us all as ‘women of worth’ , no matter what others may say and despite our circumstances. Thx for uplifting us today with your humanity and these insights from the Holy Spirit. May the Lord shine upon you and your ministry. Peace & love!

  9. I AM A WOMAN OF WORTH! Funny how just last night I was sharing with a friend how down I was feeling. Lord PLEASE help me to truly BELIEVE that I am a woman of worth. Thank you Gwen for sharing this devotion! I feel like it was written just for me.
    Prayer Request: First & foremost – that I will put God first in EVERYTHING & trust Him for healing. Second – personal health challenges that are really getting me down. Thanks!

  10. I am a woman of worth! I have been struggling with this. Thank you for getting the message through to me, Jesus, through Gwen.

  11. I’m a woman of worth. I enjoy your article, I feel so worthless most day’s . I’m going to have to read this every day. It’s so hard to keep telling yourself your worth a lot when so many things, people. Make you feel otherwise. I thank you for the encouraging words.

  12. Yes thank ;you for this one today and thank you God for giving us this lady. God confidence ” I am a woman of Worth”.

  13. I am a woman if worth!!!! I ask for a prayer of my dear momma who is 90 and dealing with severe short term memory loss. She is frustrated daily. I ask for prayers for her to find peace amid this frustration. Amen.

  14. I am a woman of worth but it took so many years. After your told that you are not you begin to believe it. I thank God for his salvation and his unfailing love.

  15. I am a woman of worth! I loved your visual of walking into God’s department store. Brought chills and tears as you described Him putting the coat on you and you noticing the piercings on His hands. I have a magnet in my office that says T.G.I.F.-Thank God I’m Fabulous! I have dealt with feelings of unworthiness, insecurity and feeling I am not good enough, but lately God has shown me how to surface out of these feelings. Thank you so much for your devotion this morning. May He continue to bless your ministries!

  16. I loved today’s devotion. I shared it with the head of our Second Chance Mission leader. We go into strip clubs to share with these ladies how much God loves them. It’s amazing the number of people who have been lead into the light from out of the darkness. I know this will touch the hearts and lives of many who feel unworthy that we see and talk with. Thank you for this wonderful devotion and reminder of God’s love.

  17. As I read through some of the other comments I realized that through you in this devotion, God has spoken to the heart of another broken woman suffering with feelings of worthlessness years later. That broken woman was me a few minutes ago, but Thank You Father, today I again realize I am a Woman of Worth!! Praise God & Thank you Gwen that today & in years to come this will continue to help another beautiful woman realize her worth in Christ Jesus! ♡
    ~*Rose Anzaldua*~

  18. I am a woman of worth! Because the Bible tells me so! What a beautiful and timely story. I thank you for sharing your heart and the truth about what we, as women of faith, are worth to God. in his eyes, he sees us…He hears us…He knows us…more intimately than anyone on this earth ever will.
    I had been feeling insignificant, unseen and worthless but what a worth lie ? I’m soaring high again only because of the steadfast love of the Lord! His love never ceases!!!

  19. “I am a woman of Worth!” Just the reminder I needed this morning as I am struggling with my relationship with my daughter in law. My son and her live three hours away. We rarely see them because of their work schedules. Last night my son was here as he comes to this area periodically for Army Reserve duty. He dropped the bombshell on me that once again they would be spending the holidays with his wife’s family twelve hours away.They’ve gone there every holiday and every vacation in the three years they’ve been married. I feel left out.I feel his dad, brother, sister, brother in law and my sweet grandbabies are left out of their lives. Thank you for the reminder that I am worth something to God, even though I feel worthless and unwanted by my daughter in law.

  20. “I am a woman of worth!”. Thank you, Gwen for this awesome reminder. I was in a job for 9 years when a new law partner was brought in. Nothing I did was good enough for her. After two years, I had to quit before I had a nervous breakdown. I felt worthless. I had done everything to please people and got the shaft. It has taken me 7 months to recuperate from the hurt that I felt. This week has been tough for me and after reading this article….. I feel so much better! Thank you so much for all you do. God bless you!

  21. I am a woman of Worth! God knew that I needed to see this today. I was raped 18 years ago and still struggle with the feelings of thinking it was my fault. I must have done something to provoke it. I feel ashamed. Reading your post mad me cry as I could feel Jesus hugging me telling me I am worthy and to drop the feeling of shame. I pray that I can always remember I am a woman of Worth! Thank you so much!

  22. I am a woman of worth! Encouraging words for anyone who has drawn a breath and lived in a condemning world! From someone who lived the majority of her life trying to fit in, to be liked, to be accepted, who has scars upon scars, what freedom knowing only Christ defines me and gives me worth!

  23. God-confidence: “I am a woman of Worth!”  I really enjoyed your article. Thank you for the encouragement. God bless!

  24. I am a woman of worth. Thank you Gwen for your inspirational blog, daily Girlfriend devotional and heart for God. You are blessed to be a blessing and I am thankful to God for having us do life together. God bless you woman of God.

  25. Jesus I love you! I am a woman of worth! I thank God for you woman of God for allowing Him to use you in a way such as this to inspire, uplift, and encouarge. May God continue to bless and keep you is my prayer. Keep letting God use you.

  26. I am a woman of worth! What a beautiful devotional! I plan on sharing with some of my friends who feel like they are on the bargain rack! You have blessed me so much during my morning quiet time! Blessings, Vicki

  27. I am a woman of worth!!! God is so loving & forgiving…it is so difficult for me to grasp that on a daily basis. Self doubt & self esteem are my downfall. My mind & my heart know that because of Jesus I am worth being loved & being happy; however the challenge to actually accept his grace & mercy is what i struggle with daily. But I can keep pressing towards that goal…all I can do is take it one day at a time…Jesus Christ is my Rock & my Salvation! Praise to Lord God Almighty!

  28. I’m a woman of worth!! Thank you Gwen. I have struggled with this for a long time. Feeling worthless, alone, like I didn’t belong. With Christ I am free and valuable and it’s a good feeling. I pray that everyday I can feel that and not let the world change my view of me. The world doesn’t know me at all but praise God The Lord does.

  29. I am who God says I am – I am not defined by my past, my failures, my faults, my children’s successes and/or failures, how much I volunteer at church or school, how clean my house is – I am a woman of worth!

  30. After many years of serious emotional growth I am finally beginning to feel valuable in GOD’s . You see I was sexually abused for the first time at age six by a stranger, then many times after by an older brother, then by my husband. I am now 67 years old and it has taken most of those years to heal and feel GOD’s wonderful love. Although I know GOD was always with me during my life HE is truly revealing HIS presence in these later years of my spiritual growth. I am of value! Praise our GOD and Heavenly Father!! Betty Joyce

  31. I am a woman of worth!!!!! I have to share that I was at the farewell tour of Women of Faith the other week. I have struggled with shame and feelings of worthlessness for years, one of the ladies said something that God used to heal me right at that moment, that was, “Guilt tells you you’ve done something wrong; SHAME tells you, you are all wrong”. In that moment I realized that I AM NOT ALL WRONG, God made me, I am a daughter of the Most High King, and God DOESN’T MAKE JUNK!!!!!!! Hallelujiah!!!!!

  32. Last week has been quiet challenging for me and I think it by weighing your worth in the world. God led me to read this so that am also told that am loved and of worth to him . Thereby dear lord I pray and thank you for your ever kindness and mercy.

  33. The last few months have been some of the most difficult times of my life, my career that I believe was God ordained was put into question and my in securities have come out , I have had panic attacks and felt worthless , God put this devotional in my life for a reason tonight – thank you and God bless

  34. Praise the Lord that I am a woman of worth and a grace girl! Thank you Lord and thank you Gwen for this encouraging message! Praying for you 🙂

  35. I am a woman of worth! (because that’s who my God says that I am) Be it unto me as He has spoken. Thank you Lord! Amen.

  36. Gwen, this was simply beautiful! Thank you for reaching out to all of us women and reminding us that we are all woman of worth through Jesus Christ who strengthens us. We sometimes forget what is most important so I thank you for being the voice through Christ to remind us that we are all his children and we all play an important roll as his children. We are beautiful with talents and God gave us all of these blessings. We are just as he imaged and created us. It takes women like you to keep us reminded. God Bless You Gwen! Keep on writing and encouraging! I am so thankful for reading your blog this morning! It was a great and positive way to start my day!

  37. I am a woman of worth!!! I am a child of the Kings of kings and Lord of lords. Thank you Jesus for paying the price so that I can walk in confidence knowing Your love has set me apart for a special assignment in the Kingdom. Thank you Jesus. Amen 🙂

  38. I am a woman of worth! I have been paid for at the highest price – by the blood of Jesus whom God, our father, sent to die for me and my sins. He sent His ONLY son to rescue me…. I am loved beyond what I can perceive….
    May he keep loving us and blessing us – thank you, Gwen for reminding us Girlfriends in God. God bless you all abundantly.

  39. On an episode of Fringe, Walter is trying to get Olivia to use her gifts/abilities. She is unsure so he says to her, “I wish you could see yourself the way I see you. You have no idea how extraordinary you are!” I felt like God was saying, “This is how I see you!” We are extraordinary in His eyes and capable of so much more when we can see ourselves the way He sees us!

  40. I am a woman of worth! God allowed me to stumble upon your article at just about the right time. A few days ago, I struggled once more with resurfacing feelings of inadequacy triggered by some events at work. Through all that, God showed me that some aspects of my self-worth was still not based on Him, and that’s why my concept of worth eventually crumbled (temporarily). But upon bringing my brokenness to Him, He has encouraged me as the Holy Spirit has led me to once more fix my eyes upon Jesus, and not on myself or circumstances. Because my worth is based on Jesus, who is truly worthy, I am a woman of worth! 🙂

  41. Praise Jesus, my Heavenly King and Father for bringing Gwen Smith and Erin Thiele into my life. I am saved because of these women and the devotion and obedience they had to our Lord to bring His message to others. thank you. i am blessed because of You.

  42. I am a woman of worth! Although I have experienced or am currently experiencing every single bullet point addressed in this devotion! I am fearfully and wonderfully made by my heavenly father who freely gives me his Agape love! Thank you for this devotional – it was right on time!

  43. I am a woman of worth. I am often criticized when I flip the coin on a phrase so often repeated by the body of Christ …. which alludes to our being undeserving of God’s love, grace and mercy. I quietly listened as the Holy Spirit told me that God’s creation is worth Jesus’ death. If He, God did not think we were worthy of His love and of salvation, He would not have given Jesus, His Son to die for us. The song that strengthens my resolve in this matter is by CeCe Winans, “It Wasn’t Easy” in which she sings …. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it …. Listen to it, if you haven’t already, it will bless you. We are of worth, and to think otherwise is an insult to the work of the cross. Thank you for strengthening this resolve one more day. Keep up your “well doing” and don’t get weary. My prayer for you is that God abundantly give you an abundance of grace for this good work you are doing.

  44. This is exactly what I share in my message, “Fire Up Your Confidence,” Gwen. Thank you for being so honest and transparent. As a woman who struggled with “worth” for so many years before finding my value “in Christ,” I know the difference a biblical perspective can make. Love your creative way of expressing the truth.

  45. I AM a woman of worth!!! You know, %$^ happens in life and it can turn our worlds upside down, but my God is a God of healing, forgiveness, love, grace, mercy, and is always beside me. Without Him I can do nothing. Thank you, Lord, for being my Savior.

  46. I am a woman of worth!! I love God and he has turned my life around. Now I see that i have a purpose for HIS Kingdom. God bless you and today’s devotion spoke immensely to me. Thank you.

  47. I am a woman of worth ,I so look forward to devotions with the girls each morning. I needed today’s devotion, weeping may endure for a night ,but joy comes in the morning

  48. I am a Woman of Worth! I am so THANKFUL that God is taking me (cause I’m still on the journey) from ‘broken’ to BEAUTIFUL!!!

    1. We all are in many ways, Pam. It’s just so powerful to remember that He is a God of restoration, healing, hope and life. In Him – though we struggle – we have all that we need… and we are valuable. God is so good!

  49. “I am a Woman of WORTH!” Thank you for this devotion today! This reminder excites me, because this is something I dealt with all my life. God has been working in me over the last 10 years to clearly understand the lies of satan in reference to who God created me to be. Daily I’m becoming more passionate about woman and girl understanding who they are in Christ! Thank you for your ministry!!

  50. I am a woman of worth. I too pray my beautiful amazing daughter will have the courage to believe this too! Thank you for your word of truth.

  51. Thank you for this… I wept as I read the part of the salesmen with the pierced hands, stating “it’s a perfect fit”. I often feel worthless as a wife of a wonderful man with two step children whom I’ve tried repeatedly to get them to love me. We were unable to have our own children and am often left with feelings of “worthlessnes”. Your powerful visual in this message reminds me that Jesus is King and loves me unconditionally.

  52. I am a woman of worth. I pray for my daughter to realize that as well. Also for a granddaughter who has really gone astray. Thanks N

  53. Thank you God for your promises, your encouragements in your word which lights my path. All I am I owe to you, Almighty God. Lead me dear father to live a life that reflects your glory as a woman of worth.

  54. Thank you for this wonderful post today, I really needed it! Thank you for reminding me that no matter what happens in my life I am a woman of worth because of what He did for me! Amen!!

  55. I connected with your message big time having struggled with worthlessness & being held captive by it…over & over! Thank you for setting the record straight with God’s powerful truth!

  56. It’s hard to remember that I’m a woman of worth when life gets tough and discouragement is everywhere. But I’m created to be valuable to the Lord, so I can view myself as complete in Him!

  57. I’ve been batting pride, but in striving to overcome this sin I’ve embraced worthlessness and called it humility, bearing a painful load for months.
    No, I am a woman of worth! Bought and sacrificed for by Jesus’ precious blood. I am full of sin, but covered by grace. Sin is worthless, but even yet while I was a sinner Christ died for me. I pray and hope I see the meaning of true humility.

  58. I have always believed that I was special, because I was chosen in the womb to be something special. I pray constantly that I please Him with my decisions and my actions. I constantly repent when I feel I haven’t pleased Him. I thank Him for giving me New Life. Amen.

  59. I am a woman of worth. It took me most of my life to figure that out because people chose to value me by my size.I’ve always had a weight problem and if your extremely overweight even as a child, with a last name thst everyone laughs at, you get bullied and teased unmercifully. I had low self esteem. When I came to know Christ as my savior, I still carried that baggage with me. Not until I reached my late 40’s and early 50’s did I learn that I am a worthy woman. I am a big beautiful woman. My attitude changed toward myself changed and other people’s attitudes did too. I learned to love myself. I have confidence in myself. After 26 years in my first marriage that left me feeling inadequate in every way, I know I’m worthy. I’ve been divorced and remarried and not only do I see myself as worthy, but my new husband supports me and shows me that in his eyes I am worthy and so very loved. His love is wonderful but my Savior’s love is greater. He showed me as He did many times before before that I am a worthy and much loved woman and that I needed to start loving myself. I do love myself. God gave me the gift of life and now I live it to the fullest enjoying it as I was meant to. Thank You Lord for life and for loving me unconditionaly. In Jesus previous name, AMEN

  60. I am a woman of worth. I am me because of who God says I am. Gal.2:20 “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body – I live through faith in the Son of God, who loves me and gave Himself up for me.” …and there’s a party going on right here – let’s celebrate and have a good time!!!

  61. I am a woman of worth. I work in an environment that is mostly men. If I stand boldly for things, Im considered too forward. If I express myself or give my opinion in any way, I am considered too “emotional”. Its a mess to say the least. So whats a girl like me to do? Lots and lots and lots and lots of prayer.(did I say lots of prayer LOL) Most of them are not saved, so you already know what I have to deal with. I love my job because it gives God the opportunity to shine very strong in my life and I praise Him for the challenge. Whoop, whoop!!!!

  62. I am a woman of worth! I ask for prayers for my children during this difficult season in my marriage. Sadly, one person has the power to cause such pain to two precious daughters and a good woman….Thank you Gwen for reminding me of my worth in Jesus.

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